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College Costs in Virginia Divorce

By Katie Carter

College is expensive. I know, I know – not exactly rocket science, right? And, especially in my cases where there are older teenage children, my conversations often begin and end on college education and the costs associated with it. I talk to mothers all the time, and they’re all super concerned about their kids well…

Divorce from an Abuser

By Katie Carter

I actually got into family law as a result of two abusive relationships, so I understand the ways it can shape you, affect your thinking, and alter the future. The first was a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. I didn’t think about his behavior in those terms at the time, of course; it actually took me several…

Divorce help when you can’t afford an attorney

By Katie Carter

Family law is hard. I know you know, if you’re facing a family law case. And you can bet your boots I know, because it’s what I do day in and day out. I understand the love a parent has for a child, having two of my own. I understand the degree to which a…

Grounds for Virginia Divorce

By Katie Carter

My college roommate/best friend texted me this morning to ask whether, in my professional opinion, a recent transgression of her husband’s was grounds for divorce. She included a picture, of a bottle of syrup, with the name “Vermont Maid” proudly displayed across the bottle. I should probably also mention: my friend, Erin, is from Vermont….

When you and your child’s father disagree on a diagnosis

By Katie Carter

It’s hard to have a child with special needs. In this instance, I’m defining “special needs” pretty broadly, to include anything from a child so disabled that he or she will never live independently, and something as small as a general IEP or 504 plan for ADD. A “special need”, as far as I’m concerned,…

Moving with your husband when your marriage is on the rocks

By Katie Carter

It’s not uncommon, over the course of a marriage, for one spouse to receive a job offer that turns things upside down. It seems like a no brainer to accept a change when it might mean a completely different financial future for your family. Of course, that’s not to say it’s easy. You may be…

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Tag with: best interests of the child | divorce | moving | separation

Why won’t a Virginia divorce attorney take my case?

By Katie Carter

It happens sometimes that a potential client walks into our office, tells us their story, and ultimately walks away without a retainer agreement. There are lots of reasons we might not give a retainer agreement. Sometimes the potential client only comes in to get more information. Sometimes, they’re not really ready to move forward just…

The answer to every Virginia custody and divorce question

By Katie Carter

If I had a nickel for every time a friend or family member texted me with a random legal question, I could probably retire. But, of course, they aren’t interested in paying, they just want to get information. Sometimes, I wonder why – because I feel like I give the same answer to literally every…

Virginia Child Custody: Moving and Taking the Kids

By Katie Carter

Moving and taking the kids If you and your child’s father are no longer together, it makes sense that, sooner or later, one or both of you will find someone else. And it probably goes without saying that your someone else comes with his own baggage as well. Blending families – and making it work…

Should I liquidate my 401(k) to get back on my feet after divorce?

By Katie Carter

Divorce puts many a woman in a pretty tough spot financially. It can be hard to get your feet back under you afterwards, and it’s tempting to think of any place where you might be able to skim a little money oft the top in an attempt to reestablish some degree of normalcy. In virtually…

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Tag with: 401(k) | equitable distribution | separation | sheera herrell | Virginia divorce

Divorce and Adultery in Virginia: I want to depose his girlfriend!

By Katie Carter

Divorce and Adultery in Virginia As far as procedure is concerned, adultery cases are some of the most difficult fault based divorce cases you can come across in Virginia. You have to meet a pretty strict standard of proof to satisfy the judge, you have to have a corroborating witness, and, of course, you have…

How do I get him to agree to my terms?

By Katie Carter

How can I convince him to agree to my proposed distribution of assets? I’m continuing a conversation that I’ve been having all week, about a woman I met at a recent Second Saturday seminar monthly divorce seminar for Virginia women. On Monday, I discussed the kinds of records you should have to prepare for your…

Dividing the personal property in Virginia divorce

By Katie Carter

On Monday, I wrote about a woman who came to Second Saturday with a TON of questions. I answered some of them in my article about the financial records you’ll need to prepare for your divorce that I published then, but I’m not done. I’m still talking about records, but today about personal property. Specifically,…

What records do I need for my Virginia divorce?

By Katie Carter

I recently taught our Second Saturday seminar in Newport News, and I met a woman there who is providing the inspiration for this post. I think she hoped to learn everything there is to know about divorce in 1.5 hours, which is an admirable, but probably impossible, feat, though I was impressed with her diligence…

Should I agree to his terms in our Virginia divorce?

By Katie Carter

Should I agree to his terms in our Virginia divorce? It often happens that, before I see a client in my office, she and her husband and/or child’s father are negotiating some behind the scenes. Though I often think that’s a good thing (hey, cheaper to agree yourselves than to pay me to negotiate it…

The Fifth Amendment and Adultery

By Katie Carter

Like everyone else, I’m a little obsessed with Hamilton right now; I saw it at Chrysler Hall this past winter, and watched it on July 3rd as soon as it came on Disney+. I’m also (no secret here) a Virginia attorney, and I’ve been reading up, since July 1st, on the new law changes that…

Un-Signing a Prenup

By Katie Carter

I talked last week about cases where a prenup is already signed (spoiler alert: YES, it IS a big deal!). The gist of it is that, in any case, a legal contract like a prenuptial agreement or a separation agreement exists in order to modify the law, and to make specific conditions apply to the case…

What if I have a prenuptial agreement?

By Katie Carter

Very few things strike fear into a divorce attorney’s heart as much as the words, “I have a prenup,” unless its “I already signed the separation agreement”. Either way, it’s very, very relevant information, as what you already signed can have a significant (and sometimes terribly detrimental) impact on your entitlements. When we speak…

What happens in an initial consultation for divorce or custody?

By Katie Carter

We get a lot of consultations that are scheduled, and then rescheduled, rescheduled again, and sometimes even flat out cancelled. I get it. It’s scary. And coming in for a divorce consultation with a real lawyer can seem like a step that you may or may not be ready to take. I’ve compared it…

Divorce and Compromise

By Katie Carter

A friend sent me a message the other day about divorce to ask me about her divorce. It happens all the time! She had gotten an inheritance from her grandmother, she said, and used it to buy a car and a trailer, but that her soon to be ex was keeping it hostage and she…

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