It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s a truth that you should accept, and the earlier the better. Custody cases are not about fairness. There are lots of things about custody cases that are “unfair”. It’s not fair that he can petition, over and over again, for a modification based on a material change in circumstances. It’s not fair that, if you win at the juvenile court, he can appeal to the circuit court. It’s not fair that he can ask for a GAL or a custody evaluator to be involved, who … [Read more...]
Girl’s Night Out Valentine’s Day at the Banque
Valentine’s Day: February 13th at the Banque Already dreading Valentine’s Day? Or just thinking about alternatives to the traditional red rose dinner with your, well, whoever? We’ve got a solution for you! Complaints about Valentine’s Day were common enough that something like five or six years ago we decided to start hosting a Valentine’s Day Girl’s Night Out event. We’ve hosted these events now for a long time, so we know how much it means to women (especially women who are going through a … [Read more...]
How do I choose a family law attorney?
How do I choose a family law attorney? It’s a million dollar question (or, at least, a $2,500-10,000 question). If you’re headed towards a divorce or custody case, how do you know whom to hire to represent you? You probably already know that you’re way better served having an attorney than not (or else you wouldn’t be here, reading this article), but how do you pick just one? Besides that, of course, lawyers don’t have the best reputations as a demographic. So, probably, it feels like an … [Read more...]
When your faith doesn’t allow divorce
When your faith doesn’t allow divorce Believe me, I am far from a spiritual adviser. What I am, though, is someone who has seen a lot of divorce. I’ve seen women in my office make arguments for divorce, and arguments against divorce. Though my general feeling is that most people who say that they don’t believe in divorce haven’t been unhappily married themselves, I do also hear from people who object to divorce on religious grounds. Though I don’t argue for or against divorce in any case … [Read more...]
My JAG Attorney Gave Me a Form Separation Agreement
My JAG attorney gave me a form separation agreement It’s not the first time I’ve written about JAG attorneys, and it probably won’t be the last, especially given that these same issues keep popping up time and time again in my practice. I’ve said it before: JAG attorneys are usually not licensed in the state in which they are stationed. If you’re military (which you probably are, or you wouldn’t have contact with a JAG attorney and you wouldn’t have found your way to this article), you … [Read more...]
Does Hofheimer Family Law offer free consultations?
Does Hofheimer Family Law offer free consultations? It’s a scary time. Once you realize your marriage is over – but before you’ve taken any action to formally end your marriage – is a time filled with uncertainty. If you’re like me, you want to take steps now to end those feelings of uncertainty, to come up with a game plan, to figure out how to solve some of these big, scary problems so that you can go back to sleep at night instead of tossing and turning endlessly. Most people turn to an … [Read more...]
What are your retainer fees?
What are your retainer fees? If that’s not a generic question, I don’t know what is! I know there’s a lot of confusion out there about how attorneys bill and what we charge for. I also know that there’s often a general feeling that we’re not all that willing to give straight answers. In law school, the joke was always that the answer to every single question is “It depends.” Today, I’m going to explain to you what goes in to setting retainer fees, and the different types of cases that we … [Read more...]
Will a Guardian ad litem be involved in my custody case?
Will a Guardian ad litem be involved in my custody case? In a case where custody is litigated in court, there are at least two attorneys. Your attorney, who represents you – and has a duty to represent your cause zealously; and his attorney, who, of course, has the same obligations to your husband that your attorney does to you. It doesn’t matter whether your dad or your great uncle or your ex husband is footing the bill for your attorney, your attorney represents you and only you. So, … [Read more...]
Custody Bootcamp for Moms: Seminar for Virginia Moms
Custody Bootcamp for Moms: Seminar for Virginia Moms On Wednesday, I wrote about our divorce seminar for Virginia women. Today, I wanted to tell you a little bit more about our custody seminar. Our custody seminar in particular is really intense. It’s an intense, all day seminar, designed to teach Virginia moms what they need to know to represent themselves at the juvenile court level in a custody, visitation, and/or child support case. As someone who attended law school, I can tell you that … [Read more...]
Why do you represent women only?
Why do you represent women only? So, if you’ve found your way here, you probably already know that we’re different from every single other family law firm in the Commonwealth of Virginia. That’s right – there’s no other law firm in the Commonwealth that represents women only in divorce and custody cases. There are, however, two other firms dedicated to representing men only in Virginia. Why are there other firms that represent men only, and only one that represents women only? The answer is … [Read more...]
