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How do I get him to pay for my Virginia divorce?

We can all put divorce right up there on the tippy top of the list of things we don’t want to pay for, right? Even if you want the divorce itself, you don’t really want to pay the costs associated with it. A joke I hear all the time – especially when I tell random…


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Divorce and Adultery in Virginia: I want to depose his girlfriend!

Divorce and Adultery in Virginia As far as procedure is concerned, adultery cases are some of the most difficult fault based divorce cases you can come across in Virginia. You have to meet a pretty strict standard of proof to satisfy the judge, you have to have a corroborating witness, and, of course, you have…


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My JAG Attorney Gave Me a Form Separation Agreement

My JAG attorney gave me a form separation agreement It’s not the first time I’ve written about JAG attorneys, and it probably won’t be the last, especially given that these same issues keep popping up time and time again in my practice. I’ve said it before: JAG attorneys are usually not licensed in the state…


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What kinds of free divorce and custody information can I get?

What kinds of free divorce and custody information can I get? While there are very, very few (if any) attorneys who’ll actually take on an entire divorce or custody case pro bono, there’s tons of free divorce and custody information out there. After all, having the right information is critical, because it will help ensure…


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Negotiating a separation agreement

A client of mine, who had retained me to help her draft a separation agreement, forwarded me the draft separation agreement that her husband had prepared while we were working on ours, with the caption “Things just got ugly.” I was confused – after all, I was retained to prepare a separation agreement, much like…


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My marriage isn’t working out. What should I do?

My marriage isn’t working out.  What should I do? There’s not a lot of things that feel scarier than divorce. It’s a big change, and it impacts all areas of your life. I think probably the scariest parts aren’t even what will happen to your retirement accounts or your house, but the ideological shift that…


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Making the decision to divorce

Divorce is a big decision, and it’s not one that anyone undertakes lightly. No matter who you are or where you came from, you’re not making this decision easily. In fact, you probably haven’t even made any type of decisions for sure at this point. If you’re like most women, at this point, you’re simply…


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New Year’s Divorce Resolutions

Well, it’s officially the new year. With all those New Year’s resolutions to lose weight and eat healthy and be happy come some others. In fact, though it may not seem like it at first, they’re really along the same lines anyway. Separation and divorce are often part of a New Year’s resolution, too. I’ve…


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Women in Divorce

We’re the only firm in Virginia representing women only in divorce or custody cases, and we have been for awhile.  In our area, there are two firms representing men – though, if I’m not mistaken, they don’t represent men exclusively. I had a settlement conference recently with one of the attorneys from one of the…


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Just had a baby — now divorce?

If ever there was a bad time to be thinking that your marriage is on the rocks, it’s right after you’ve delivered a baby.  Add to your level of stress (you know, related to delivery, recovery, post partum, the realities of raising a baby) with the fact that you may or may not be able…


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