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What if he’s kicked out of the military for his adultery?

What if he is kicked out of the military for his adultery? We talked Monday about a question we get fairly frequently: Should I report my husband’s adultery to his military command? The answer to Monday’s question is fairly straightforward. In almost every single case, I’d say absolutely not. There’s too much risk to you…


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Should I report his adultery to his military command?

Should I report his adultery to his military command? All too often, the answers that I give to the questions that I’m asked are complicated and multifaceted. A question that a woman describes to me as “simple” ends up being anything but simple, after I’ve covered all the bases and explained all the possible advantages,…


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Should I call his CO about his cheating?

Should I call his CO about his cheating? The military has its own specific set of rules that military service members must follow, including a very specific prohibition against adultery. Not only that, but “fraternization” between fellow military service members is also frowned upon. Whenever anyone finds out that their partner is cheating, it’s devastating….


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Relocation in Virginia Military Custody Cases: Part 2

Relocation in Virginia Military Custody Cases: Part 2 On Friday, we talked about relocation when you’re a military spouse. (Spoiler alert: it’s tough!) Today, we’re going to talk about the other side of the coin – what happens in a Virginia custody case when HE relocates because of a permanent change of duty station? For…


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Relocation in Virginia Military Custody Cases: Part 1

Relocation in Virginia Military Custody Cases: Part 1 We’ve talked about relocation cases in Virginia generally, and how difficult it is to “win” a relocation case in Virginia. It comes up all the time, as you can probably imagine, but it comes up especially often in military divorce cases. When it comes to relocation, the…


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Delegating visitation during military deployment

Delegating visitation during military deployment In our area, dealing with the military is, for better or for worse, just a part of daily life. We’re pretty attuned to the specific issues that the military faces, and, for many of us, whether we’re current or former military service members or spouses, there are a lot of…


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Adultery, Spousal Support, and Custody

Adultery, Spousal Support, and Custody We talked Monday about adultery, and the difference between filing a divorce (which is a civil case) using adultery as your grounds and an actual criminal prosecution on adultery (which is a level IV misdemeanor in Virginia). The purpose of that article was to alleviate concerns I see around adultery…


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Will I be charged with adultery?

Will I be charged with adultery? So, as you probably already know (or you wouldn’t be reading this article), adultery is a crime in Virginia. It’s also grounds for divorce. But what happens if you file for divorce (or your husband files for divorce) and alleges adultery as the grounds? This is especially a concern…


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What to expect in a Virginia military divorce

On Monday, we talked about the differences between military and civilian divorce. So far, we’ve mostly discussed the ways that military and civilian divorces are similar. (Shocking, right?) Well, as you already know, military and civilian divorce are a little bit different. Procedurally, they’re very similar, but there are certain assets that exist in military…


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Divorce Military Benefits

Getting a divorce is bad enough, but getting a divorce when your spouse is a military service member is often even more difficult. Not only are you divorcing him, but, unless you’re a 20/20/20 spouse (more on that later), you’re divorcing the military, too—and all of the benefits it provided you and your family. Civilians…


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