I actually got into family law as a result of two abusive relationships, so I understand the ways it can shape you, affect your thinking, and alter the future. The first was a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. I didn’t think about his behavior in those terms at the time, of course; it actually took me several years (and a new, healthy relationship – with my now husband) to help me gain that perspective and see all the problematic behaviors. By the time I was offered and ultimately accepted … [Read more...]
Narcissists and the Drama Triangle in Virginia Divorce
Narcissists and the Drama Triangle in Virginia Divorce I recently read a really interesting article that really helps to explain some of the ways a narcissistic husband will try to manipulate a situation to their advantage. For their spouse, the behavior is toxic, damaging, and, oftentimes, really difficult to separate themselves from. Partially, it’s just the way we’re built. You know, psychologically. They say that men get their sense of self worth from external things, like the job they … [Read more...]
Dealing with narcissism in your Virginia divorce
Dealing with narcissism in your Virginia divorce Narcissistic husbands are tricky. (And trust me, you’re nowhere near the only one dealing with issues stemming from a marriage with a narcissist!) But recognizing your husband’s condition is so helpful, even though it might not feel that way to you right this minute. Knowing how he operates, how he makes you feel, and how he thinks, can give you a real edge in your divorce or custody case. What does a narcissist do? Narcissists make their … [Read more...]
Top Tips for Dealing with a Narcississtic Husband in Virginia Divorce
If you’re married to a narcissist, I don’t need to tell you that your divorce is going to be more difficult than the average divorce. I probably also don’t need to tell you that, chances are, you’ll need an attorney to help you navigate this particular minefield. It’s unfortunate that you’ve found yourself in such a difficult position, but you’re going to need help. A narcissistic husband is so able to twist the facts to support his cause that you may find yourself feeling confused and … [Read more...]
Narcissism and Divorce
If you believe your husband is suffering from a personality disorder – like narcissism – you’re not alone. In fact, one of the more common things we deal with in our practice is narcissism, both of the diagnosed and undiagnosed variety. Narcissistic husbands are more likely to be difficult during the divorce process; they tend to see their wives as property belonging to them, or at least as an extension of themselves, and one that they are quite keen to control better. Their actions … [Read more...]
Red Flag: How to deal with divorcing a difficult husband
On our website, we talk about the five biggest red flags we see pre divorce. Hopefully, your divorce is off to a great start, you and your soon to be ex husband are communicating effectively, and you’ll never have to worry about what a red flag is and what will happen if you see one. If not, though, the best thing you can do is gather information, learn about the law in Virginia, and be prepared. What's a red flag in Virginia divorce, and how do you prepare to deal with them? First, … [Read more...]
