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Trauma Responses to Divorce and Custody Cases

  Divorce is a trauma. It’s a trauma for you, and, in many cases, it’s a trauma for your children, too. But, then again, probably many of the events leading up to your divorce and/or custody case were pretty traumatic, too. It’s not like you just showed up at a divorce attorney’s office unscathed, and…

Why don’t you just divorce him?

  I’ve been guilty of it, too, in the past. I’ve asked a friend, who confided in me about the misery involved in her relationship, why she stays. Why she doesn’t just go, because doesn’t she know she deserves better? These days, I try not to. Because I know it won’t help. Because I know…

Is he a narcissist? Common Themes in Virginia Divorce

I was reading a quote the other day that said that the best thing you can do for a narcissist is to give him a child. That was it – that was the end of the quote – but it really did get me thinking. It probably is the best thing you can do, because…

Divorce from an Abuser

I actually got into family law as a result of two abusive relationships, so I understand the ways it can shape you, affect your thinking, and alter the future. The first was a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. I didn’t think about his behavior in those terms at the time, of course; it actually took me several…

Narcissists and the Drama Triangle in Virginia Divorce

I recently read a really interesting article that really helps to explain some of the ways a narcissistic husband will try to manipulate a situation to their advantage. For their spouse, the behavior is toxic, damaging, and, oftentimes, really difficult to separate themselves from. Partially, it’s just the way we’re built. You know, psychologically. They…

Dealing with narcissism in your Virginia divorce

Narcissistic husbands are tricky. (And trust me, you’re nowhere near the only one dealing with issues stemming from a marriage with a narcissist!) But recognizing your husband’s condition is so helpful, even though it might not feel that way to you right this minute. Knowing how he operates, how he makes you feel, and how…

Top Tips for Dealing with a Narcississtic Husband in Virginia Divorce

If you’re married to a narcissist, I don’t need to tell you that your divorce is going to be more difficult than the average divorce.  I probably also don’t need to tell you that, chances are, you’ll need an attorney to help you navigate this particular minefield. It’s unfortunate that you’ve found yourself in such…

Narcissism and Divorce

If you believe your husband is suffering from a personality disorder – like narcissism – you’re not alone.  In fact, one of the more common things we deal with in our practice is narcissism, both of the diagnosed and undiagnosed variety. Narcissistic husbands are more likely to be difficult during the divorce process; they tend…

Red Flag: How to deal with divorcing a difficult husband

On our website, we talk about the five biggest red flags we see pre divorce. Hopefully, your divorce is off to a great start, you and your soon to be ex husband are communicating effectively, and you’ll never have to worry about what a red flag is and what will happen if you see one….