negotiation

What’s a reasonable custody and visitation agreement?

What is a reasonable agreement when it comes to custody and visitation? This is a question we get a lot – hey, I understand! – from concerned moms who are wondering what’ll happen after they separate from their child’s father. What should a custody and visitation agreement look like?  How much time with my kids…


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The answer to every Virginia custody and divorce question

If I had a nickel for every time a friend or family member texted me with a random legal question, I could probably retire. But, of course, they aren’t interested in paying, they just want to get information. Sometimes, I wonder why – because I feel like I give the same answer to literally every…


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Should I agree to his terms in our Virginia divorce?

Should I agree to his terms in our Virginia divorce? It often happens that, before I see a client in my office, she and her husband and/or child’s father are negotiating some behind the scenes. Though I often think that’s a good thing (hey, cheaper to agree yourselves than to pay me to negotiate it…


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When do I give up divorce negotiation and go to court?

When do I give up divorce negotiation and go to court? It’s the million dollar question: “When do I give up negotiation and go to court?” At some point in many cases, there’s a time where it seems like further negotiations are pointless. When you’re at an impasse, and you just want your divorce finalized…


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Will getting a job impact my alimony?

Will getting a job impact my alimony? I feel you – I’m a person who likes to take action, too. If you’re separating or headed quickly that direction, you’re probably wondering what changes you’ll need to make to your day to day in order to be able to afford the kind of lifestyle to which…


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My kids aren’t dealing well with the divorce

My kids aren’t dealing well with the divorce I’m no child psychologist, but I can tell you that I’ve dealt with my fair share of moms who worry themselves to death about the impact of their divorce on their children. To some extent, of course, they will notice and probably be affected by it –…


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Negotiating with your husband without your attorney

Negotiating with your husband without your attorney Some people are chronic negotiators. Depending on their circumstances, the nature of their relationship with their soon to be ex, and the facts surrounding the separation, this may or may not be a good thing. I’ve had a handful of really strong minded clients in my day, who…


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What if we want to change our separation agreement later?

What if we want to change our separation agreement later? Things change, especially when your family is in flux. In a divorce, all sorts of things can change, even within a relatively short period of time. If you’re in the military, the chances that things will change increase exponentially. I can’t count the number of…


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I drafted a Separation Agreement, but he won’t sign. What next?

I drafted a Separation Agreement, but he won’t sign. What next? You’ve agonized over the decision for months – sometimes, even years. After reflection and prayer and therapy and everything else you could think of to try, you’re ready to move forward with your divorce. I’ve seen it so many times! The initial consultation is…


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I don’t want my divorce to go to court

I don’t want my divorce to go to court For as many people as are dying to have “their day in court”, there are plenty of others who are terrified of it. While I think both of these positions are extreme; in reality, I think you’ll neither get the sense of vindication that the “day…


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