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Virginia Divorce After 5 Years of Marriage
Marriage doesn’t always last forever, and that’s okay. In fact, I generally think that, the shorter the marriage, the easier the divorce, mostly because there’s not often THAT much to divide. Life changing money usually isn’t made in just a few years, which means the stakes are generally correspondingly smaller. Why is that good? It…
Virginia Divorce After Less Than 1 Year of Marriage
Hey, it’s okay! If you only recently got married, and you’ve started to think that maybe it was a mistake, I can tell you that you’re definitely not alone. In fact, I think you’re one of the luckier ones. After a year or less, there’s often very little to divide, and no one is so…
Can I breastfeed and share custody?
We talk a lot about breastfeeding, and the unique challenges that it presents when it comes to custody and visitation agreements. As I’m sure you’re already aware, there’s really no question that, in terms of nutrition, being able to nurse your babies and toddlers is ideal. In fact, if I’m not mistaken, the current guidance…
Nesting in Virginia Child Custody Arrangements
I’m going to be completely honest: I’ve never actually worked on a case where a nesting arrangement has worked. There, I said it. The elephant in the room has been addressed. But, that being said, I do still have a lot of people ask me about nesting and other living arrangements in custody and visitation…
But I don’t need Va child support!
It doesn’t happen often, but occasionally a woman tells me that she doesn’t ‘need’ child support. It’s an interesting comment, and one that I feel kind of confused by. What do you mean – you don’t need it? Child support, after all, is not designed for the comfort of the parent receiving it; it’s…
What is split physical custody?
If you’re a millennial like me, and you’ve given it any thought at all, you’ll probably agree that Nick Parker and Elizabeth James, from the Lindsay Lohan version of The Parent Trap are among the worst parents in the history of the world. I love Dennis Quaid, I really do, and little Lindsay Lohan is…
How does going back to work impact the child support I receive: The Virginia Child Support Guidelines, Part 2
On Monday, I wrote about Virginia’s child support guideline calculations, and what might happen to child support in a situation where a mom, who previously stayed at home, re-entered the workforce. I wrote the article for a couple of reasons, but mostly because I’ve recently encountered two different attitudes. One was a woman, telling me…
How does going back to work impact the child support I receive?
There’s a lot of mystery surrounding the child support guidelines. Though I often hear from women that they don’t know how they’re going to support themselves post separation and, ultimately, post divorce, I don’t think there’s a lot of really robust conversation surrounding that topic, which can make it hard for women to know how…
Custody of Toddlers
Toddlers – like most children, really – are creatures of habit. Or, at least, they operate best when their routines are protected. As a parent, even under the best circumstances, the routine can be difficult. When you’re coparenting, maintaining a consistent routine is even more challenging, if not impossible, depending on your other coparent. Even…
Primary Physical Custody and Child Support
I’ve talked about custody every which way from Sunday, but often with more emphasis on shared physical custody than primary physical custody, even though moms almost always tell me, within minutes of our first meeting, that they want sole custody of their children. Failing that, of course, the next best thing is often primary physical…