Virginia divorce forms Everyone wants to DIY their divorce – that is, until they realize exactly what’s involved! We get requests all the time for copies of the forms that are needed in order to finalize a divorce in Virginia. But the truth is, it’s really not that easy! And it’s not one size fits all. It’s not like, if you just get some fill in the blank style forms, you’ll be able to just add your name, social security number, contact information, and then sign. There are all sorts of … [Read more...]
I just need easy Virginia divorce paperwork!
I just need easy Virginia divorce paperwork I hear things like this all the time. “I just need an easy uncontested divorce,” or “I need my divorce paperwork filed.” Sometimes, it even takes on a sort of insulting tone, “I just need a paper pusher to finalize this divorce.” “There are no issues,” I’m assured. “It’s just an easy divorce.” Is there any such thing? Well, sure. It can be pretty easy, though that’s not to suggest by any stretch that what attorneys do when it comes to divorce is … [Read more...]
Are we separated already?
Are we separated already? There’s a lot of confusing surrounding separation in Virginia, and, honestly, it’s really no wonder. In Virginia, there’s no such thing as going down to the courthouse and formally filing some document that indicates officially, once and for all, that you and your soon to be ex husband are legally separated. That would be nice, though, wouldn’t it? But it just doesn’t work that way, as much as you (or I, really!) might wish that it did. And, anyway, it’s not really … [Read more...]
Can I just file for divorce for $100?
Can I just file for divorce for $100? The other day, I received a question on our Facebook page. It was, essentially, though this is not a direct quote: “How much would it cost to file for divorce if it’s just the paperwork?” Her question is actually a little more complicated (and a little less straightforward) than it might seem. Because she didn’t really specify where she is in the process – I don’t, for example, know whether there’s a written separation agreement already, or if it’s just the … [Read more...]
What happens in an uncontested divorce?
What happens in an uncontested divorce? Basically, in Virginia, you can get divorced in one of two ways. Either you guys duke it all out in front of a judge, who ultimately rules on how everything will get divided in your case, or, alternatively, you and your husband reach an agreement regarding how everything will be divided. In the latter case – the one where you guys reach an agreement – your divorce will be uncontested, meaning that the judge does not have to render any decisions, since … [Read more...]
Can I get him to pay my Virginia divorce attorney’s fees?
Can I get him to pay for my Virginia divorce attorney’s fees? Literally no one ever wants to pay attorney’s fees. It’s a reoccurring theme, and one I’m more or less used to at this point. We get questions every single day about pro bono work, free consults, and whether we work with legal service insurance provided through employers. When women find out that we really don’t do any of those things (or, at least, not in the way they want us to do it), they jump to the next best thing – how to … [Read more...]
How long does a Virginia divorce take?
How long does a Virginia divorce take? If you’re searching for an answer to the question “How long does a divorce take?” or “How long does it take to get a divorce in Virginia?”, chances are pretty good that you want it to be over with as soon as possible. Am I right? I get this question all the time. It’s certainly a reasonable question, but it’s also kind of a difficult question to answer. Divorces can vary pretty dramatically from one case to the next, depending on the type and complexity of … [Read more...]
My kids aren’t dealing well with the divorce
My kids aren’t dealing well with the divorce I’m no child psychologist, but I can tell you that I’ve dealt with my fair share of moms who worry themselves to death about the impact of their divorce on their children. To some extent, of course, they will notice and probably be affected by it – but that doesn’t mean that a divorce has to be traumatizing for children. Studies have shown that children – particularly young children – are pretty resilient and adaptable. It’s also better for … [Read more...]
What if we want to change our separation agreement later?
What if we want to change our separation agreement later? Things change, especially when your family is in flux. In a divorce, all sorts of things can change, even within a relatively short period of time. If you’re in the military, the chances that things will change increase exponentially. I can’t count the number of times that we’ve negotiated a custody and visitation agreement, only to turn around and find that someone is PCSing. Even with civilian families, things can change at the drop … [Read more...]
Telling family and friends that you’re getting a divorce
It’s hard to explain to family and friends that your marriage is over. Probably, even though they may have seen some of the less attractive sides of your relationship, you’ve still gone above and beyond NOT to let them see him in a terrible light. Probably, in many ways, they’ve accepted him as one of their own, and rely on him for things that they would be loathe to give up. I had a client one time whose husband was her dad’s doctor. For another client, her husband managed her parent’s … [Read more...]
