In case you weren’t already aware, Veteran’s Day is coming up! And this year, like the last couple years, we’re running a special to thank female military service members and military wives for their service to our country. If you’re currently serving in the military, or your spouse is currently serving, and you’re considering a divorce or separation, we can definitely help. It’s a pretty scary experience, and there are always a lot of unknowns. You've probably got a lot of questions, and … [Read more...]
Beginning the Virginia Divorce Process
It can be hard, in many cases, for women to know what sort of decisions they ought to be making at the beginning of the divorce process. It can all seem so shrouded in mystery that it’s hard to know which way is up. It’s often compounded by the fact that many husbands seem all to willing to tell their soon to be ex wives lies or half truths about how divorce law in Virginia really operates, which makes even the most independent, free thinking women terrified about the possible … [Read more...]
Top Tips for Dealing with a Narcississtic Husband in Virginia Divorce
If you’re married to a narcissist, I don’t need to tell you that your divorce is going to be more difficult than the average divorce. I probably also don’t need to tell you that, chances are, you’ll need an attorney to help you navigate this particular minefield. It’s unfortunate that you’ve found yourself in such a difficult position, but you’re going to need help. A narcissistic husband is so able to twist the facts to support his cause that you may find yourself feeling confused and … [Read more...]
How do I protect myself in Virginia divorce?
There are a lot of unknowns in life. When you got married, you probably didn’t think you’d eventually find yourself thinking about heading down the path towards divorce. And yet – here you are. You’re in the right place, of course, and you’re certainly asking the right questions. It’s important that, before things go too far, you get a sense of what you can expect. There are a lot of unknowns in life. When you got married, you probably didn’t think you’d eventually find yourself thinking … [Read more...]
Divorce Support Groups
There’s no question that going through a divorce or custody case is difficult in more ways than one. Whenever we talk to women, particularly women who are at the beginning of the process, they cite a whole laundry list of concerns that are keeping them lying awake at night. Whether their concerns are more emotional or financial or have to do with insecurities or fears about their ability to continue raising their children in the way they always planned, there are a lot of things that divorce … [Read more...]
New Year = Divorce
Now that the holidays are over, it’s time to start thinking about 2017, and how you’ll make it a better year than 2016. If you’ve been unhappy in your marriage, you’re probably thinking about the changes you could make in your personal life that would make you happier, more fulfilled, or a better parent moving forward. There aren’t really a whole lot of things that are worse than feeling trapped in a marriage. No matter what has gone wrong, all the worry and wondering and stressing about what … [Read more...]
Should I get an attorney in my Virginia juvenile court case?
A lot of times, if you’re just filing for custody, visitation, child support, or spousal support, you’re going to start out at the juvenile court level. If you’re not currently pursuing divorce, but these issues are currently unresolved, the juvenile court is really the only forum you have available to you. There’s good news and bad news when it comes to dealing with the juvenile court, but the most positive thing I can say on the good side is that anything that happens in the juvenile court is … [Read more...]
3 Mistakes Women Make Drafting Separation Agreements
We’ve talked about it before, and we’ll talk about it again. Women all over Virginia (and, I assume, all over the rest of the country) are drafting their own separation agreements rather than hiring attorneys to do it. The reality is that there are many mistakes women make drafting separation agreements. Statistically, most people hire attorneys, of course, but there’s also a fair number of people for whom hiring an attorney just isn’t possible—for financial or other reasons. Those … [Read more...]
Should we try marriage counseling?
Lots of couples talk to a marriage counselor as an attempt to repair their marriage. In fact, in my years of experience, I have never met a single person who didn’t tell me how hard they tried to fix their marriage before they wound up in my office. Is it possible to save your marriage, rather than end it? Almost certainly you know the answer to that question better than I do. All I can tell you, for a fact, is that, in my experience, many marriages can be saved. In fact, lots of people come in … [Read more...]
I’m scared to talk to a Virginia divorce attorney
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like talking to people I don’t know on the phone. Even silly things, like ordering pizza, give me little stomach flutters when I pick up the phone. There’s no real reason; it’s not like anything bad has ever come from me picking up the phone and talking to someone new (and, sometimes, really good things happen—like pizza gets delivered!), but it still bothers me. I would avoid it completely if I could. Lots of times, I can avoid picking up the phone and … [Read more...]
