Virginia Mother’s BEWARE of Guardian Ad Litem in Child Custody Cases

When custody of your children is in dispute, or sometimes, when visitation cannot be agreed to by the parents, courts will often appoint a Guardian Ad Litem to represent the “best interest” of your Children..

Don’t Assume The Guardian Ad Litem will Share Your View

A Guardian ad Litem, often referred to as a GAL, is a court appointed attorney who can have a significant influence on the outcome of your custody case and that influence can be against your interest and in favor of the children’s father. So do not assume that a GAL will share your views about what is best for your children.

Don’t Spill Your Guts to the Guardian Ad Litem

Be Careful about spilling your guts to the GAL. If you start spilling your guts and telling the GAL about every wrong thing the children’s father has ever done, you will quickly turn the GAL against you and once they form an opinion about you, it is hard to undo that opinion. GAL’s are people just like you and me and they bring to your case their own predjudices and agendas. You want to be very careful what you tell a GAL and how you tell it.

Don’t Criticize Father-Relate how his actions impact your child

Don’t criticize Dad, Show how what Dad did impacts your child. For Instance, instead of telling the GAL that your child’s father is inconsiderate and never thinks about how his actions affect young “Mike”, you might describe exactly how “Mike” reacts when dad’s promises are unfullfilled. Give believable examples of dad’s actions and their impact on your son.
Par “B” to follow.
1. Don’t Exaggerate, Understate.
2. Don’t be a “Gusher” in your first meeting
3. Feed Your Information to the GAL in manageable doses
4. Remember the GAL may be your ADVERSARY in court. Don’t Ever Forget This !

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