Coparenting Issues: Disparaging Comments

Coparenting Issues: Disparaging Comments

  One very common provision in custody agreements (or separation agreements, if your custody case is part of a larger divorce action) is that neither party will make disparaging comments about the child’s other parent in the presence or hearing of the child. Sounds easy, right?   Don’t talk badly about each other.  Full stop. It’s...

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Custody cases are some of the most dramatic, contentious, and stressful cases.  I’ve written on this before, and I’ll say it again: Virginia is NOT one of the states in this country that mandates 50/50 custody as a starting point. In Virginia, we use the ‘best interests of the child’ factors, established by statute, as...

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Virginia Custody Agreements

The whole point of a legal contract – any contract – is to establish specific terms governing a certain situation.  When we’re talking about divorce, we use a separation agreement.  When it comes to custody and visitation, we’re either talking about an initial determination or a modification, but the same goal exists: to agree, rather...

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Grandparent visitation is often a hot button issue – especially when parents separate and/or divorce.  In general, grandparents don’t have a lot of rights to custody and visitation of minor children which, in my opinion, is as it should be.  The parents are the ones who are tasked with making the day to day decisions...

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Will a parenting app help our communication?

Navigating a new coparenting relationship is challenging, even under the best of circumstances.  Most breakups, though, aren’t the best of circumstances. Or maybe – and this is entirely possible – I just have a poor sampling. I do think that’s something you (and probably I) should always consider.  When I speak (or write), I’m thinking...

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Custody, Coparenting, and Overscheduled Kids

Sometimes, the most frustrating things about coparenting aren’t even necessarily the legal issues.  Sure, the legal issues themselves can be difficult to resolve but, for many families, once that initial hurdle is crossed, things settle down a bit. That doesn’t mean that all is well and everything is harmonious.  In fact, in many cases –...

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Help! My child calls stepmom ‘mom’ now!

Mom is a special word.  For months, I couldn’t wait until my babies said it back to me – though, to be honest, at this point, I wish they’d use it a little less often over the course of the day.  Still, there’s no question that it’s a special thing to be called.  It’s a...

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Blending Families After Divorce

There are very few easy situations when it comes to custody, visitation, child support, and blended families. It seems to me that, even in the cases that proceed fairly smoothly (or, at least, without litigation), there’s a fair amount of heartache and difficulty. I’ve said it before, but I think it bears mentioning again. A...

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