Not all Narcissists Make Divorce Awful

Not all Narcissists Make Divorce Awful

I know, I know.  If you’re married to a narcissist – whether diagnosed or undiagnosed – you KNOW how miserable they can make life.  And, if left to their own devices, they’d probably love to make divorce difficult, too. After all, if there’s one thing a narcissist (or a high conflict person or an abusive...

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Coparenting Issues: Spanking

  Question: I admit – I sometimes ‘bop’ my children on the bottom when they aren’t listening.  My child’s father, who has been largely uninvolved, has told my children that this is child abuse, and says he will call CPS if he hears that it ever happens again.  Because of this, my children are being...

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Coparenting Issues: Disparaging Comments

  One very common provision in custody agreements (or separation agreements, if your custody case is part of a larger divorce action) is that neither party will make disparaging comments about the child’s other parent in the presence or hearing of the child. Sounds easy, right?   Don’t talk badly about each other.  Full stop. It’s...

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Custody cases are some of the most dramatic, contentious, and stressful cases.  I’ve written on this before, and I’ll say it again: Virginia is NOT one of the states in this country that mandates 50/50 custody as a starting point. In Virginia, we use the ‘best interests of the child’ factors, established by statute, as...

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Will a parenting app help our communication?

Navigating a new coparenting relationship is challenging, even under the best of circumstances.  Most breakups, though, aren’t the best of circumstances. Or maybe – and this is entirely possible – I just have a poor sampling. I do think that’s something you (and probably I) should always consider.  When I speak (or write), I’m thinking...

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Few things in the world are scarier than facing a custody and visitation case.  Few things, too, are more difficult to gather up-to-date, state-specific information about – at least, if the information you’re looking for is also credible. There are a lot of non-attorneys out there offering advice and opinions, much of which – though...

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Coparenting Issues: Are You Gatekeeping?

There are a million different issues that come up in coparenting.  One of them – or, at least, one of the ones I hear about the most often – is gatekeeping. As a mom myself, I can completely relate.  All of the information coming at you about the kids at all times can feel insane. ...

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Help! My child calls stepmom ‘mom’ now!

Mom is a special word.  For months, I couldn’t wait until my babies said it back to me – though, to be honest, at this point, I wish they’d use it a little less often over the course of the day.  Still, there’s no question that it’s a special thing to be called.  It’s a...

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