For the most part, if you have a well-drafted separation agreement or even a very basic court order, you should be clear on what, exactly, needs to happen to wrap everything up with a nice little bow on top once your divorce is finalized. Sometimes, though, that is not the case – whether because of...
What do I have to do after divorce to get what I’m supposed to receive?
As far as equitable distribution – the legal process where your assets and liabilities are divided during divorce – is concerned, division of the retirement accounts is pretty easy. But, because retirement accounts represent a large portion of what most people have saved throughout their lives, they are also very emotionally complicated. The higher earning...
For a long time, I thought the ten year myth – the idea that you had to be married for ten years to be entitled to a portion of the military retirement – was limited to military divorces only. Please note, of course, that I called it a MYTH. I didn’t realize that many civilians...
Specific military divorce information can be hard to come by – and, even worse, what you can find is often conflicting or confusing. I’ve spent a lot of time lately writing about military divorce because I seem to keep meeting up with women who are confused about one part of military divorce or another. I...
The military has all sorts of policies which can make separation, divorce, and child custody especially confusing as a military spouse. On top of the military policies, too, there are many laws at the state level that will impact how your separation, divorce, and/or custody case will proceed, some of which supersede the military policies. ...
Military 20/20/20 status is an incredible benefit for qualifying spouses, because it entitles you to permanent military healthcare. For many women, health care is one of the most important issues in a divorce – in no large part because, for non-20/20/20 spouses and literally any civilian, there is no way to qualify for permanent, lifetime...
If you’re a woman in the military and you’re getting a divorce, you’re not alone. Though the reverse dynamic – a man as the active duty military service member and a woman as the dependent spouse – is more common, that doesn’t mean that the reverse doesn’t also occur. Plenty of women are active duty...
We talked Monday about a question we get fairly frequently: Should I report my husband’s adultery to his military command? The answer to Monday’s question is fairly straightforward. In almost every single case, I’d say absolutely not. There’s too much risk to you (from loss of potential child and spousal support to military health insurance,...