When grandparents ask for parenting time

When grandparents ask for parenting time

Before I get really going here, let me just lead with the conclusion: Virginia is not a state that is particularly friendly to grandparents when it comes to custody and visitation.  That doesn’t mean that grandparents can’t file and ask a court to grant them custody and/or visitation – actually, any non-parent third party could...

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Custody with an alcoholic

Going through a custody case is harrowing in the best circumstances (is that an oxymoron?) but it’s even worse when your soon-to-be ex is an alcoholic or struggles with substance abuse issues. And you know what’s worse than that? Knowing he’s an alcoholic but without having information or evidence to back it up. You’ve seen...

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Let’s start with the maybe not-quite-so-obvious.  In family law, it doesn’t really matter what “studies” suggests or what the “data” says.  We are not making arguments about what is best for many children, or most children, or some randomized, average, but  ultimately representative group of children. We are talking only about your children. The children...

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In most cases, paternity isn’t a big issue.  In most cases, the parties don’t dispute it – and, obviously, there’s hardly ever any issues as it relates to maternity.  Right?  You know full well you were in the room where it happened.  Sure, there can be complications with adoptions or foster care, but that’s not...

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Does it ever benefit women to get married?

I’m married – and I’m a divorce attorney.  It’s a bit of an oxymoron, isn’t it?  Or is it?  I don’t even know anymore.  I’m also a pretty connected, online person, so I hear all the chatter (I try to make sure I hear all the chatter) about staying single, getting or staying married, and...

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Does it ever benefit women to get married?

I’m married – and I’m a divorce attorney.  It’s a bit of an oxymoron, isn’t it?  Or is it?  I don’t even know anymore.  I’m also a pretty connected, online person, so I hear all the chatter (I try to make sure I hear all the chatter) about staying single, getting or staying married, and...

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To put him on child support or to NOT put him on child support – that is the question!  It’s a legitimate question, too, because filing a petition for child support can open the door to more custody litigation. Let’s talk about it. Filing petitions for child custody, visitation, and child support In Virginia, if...

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Online, you’ll find any number of so-called (self-proclaimed) experts in family law.  From divorce coaches to mediators to regular parents who’ve just been through a (usually high conflict) divorce or custody case themselves. This is often great.  Divorce coaches can do things – and give advice – that I can’t in the sense that it...

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