Is it better for me to file using fault or no fault grounds for divorce?

  One of the unique things about Virginia when it comes to divorce is that we still allow fault based grounds for divorce!  Over the years, many states have modernized to the point that they only allow no fault grounds, but we’re one of the few holdouts.  We still allow adultery (as well as sodomy...

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Being a Stay at Home Mom isn’t Free

  I hear a lot of chatter, especially online, about how women with children – particularly multiple children – can’t afford to work because of the high cost of childcare.  And while it’s true, at least from a mathematics perspective, that what you earn is quickly and easily outpaced by what you have to pay...

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  Emotionally, going through a divorce or custody case (or, worse, a divorce AND custody case) is easily one of the most difficult things that you will face in your adult life.  Many therapists even liken the experience of going through divorce to a death – it’s just that traumatic. Even a good divorce –...

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Should I come to Girl’s Night Out?

Sometimes, I think I hate going anywhere.  But then I do, and I’m so glad I did. If you’re thinking about going to Girl’s Night Out but you’re just not sure, I’m talking directly to you.  I know it can be scary to go somewhere new, especially if you don’t know a lot of other...

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Everyone wants a free consultation – but, of course, that’s not really something that family law attorneys are known for. Though there may be the odd new attorney starting out who offers a free consultation (no, I can’t provide a list – sorry, I don’t actually know myself), that is definitely the exception and not...

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“No one takes marriage seriously anymore!”

I’m always surprised when people say to me that no one takes marriage seriously anymore. It’s usually either from someone really old or someone who is (generally) happily married. The old people, it seems to me, have a different view of marriage. Basically, that it’s to be endured, no matter what. Because you said vows,...

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No one wants to pay spousal support. No one. No man, no woman, no one, wants to pay money each month to help support and maintain their ex partner. It used to be that only men could be required to pay support to their ex-wives. It wasn’t sexist, either, because in previous decades, women didn’t...

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