Before you decide to legally separate

Posted on Sep 30, 2015 by Katie Carter

When you’re making the decision to save or end your marriage, part of the reason you struggle is because you don’t have the answers to all the questions. Of course, you’re worried about the big picture issues, like, “What will happen to me?” and “Will I ever be okay?” If you’re like most women, you’re probably also worried about the details. Unraveling two lives that have been woven pretty tightly together can be difficult, especially if you’re just not sure how the law even works.
This is the point where it’s a really good idea to start gathering information. The more you know now, the better choices you can make for yourself and for your family. That’s why we always recommend that the first steps are to request a copy of our free divorce book and attend one of our women’s only divorce seminars.
You’re not ready to hire an attorney. You’re not even really sure that you’re headed towards divorce. You don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars just getting answers to your questions; you want to get a little bit of free advice that will help you as you begin to think about how to move your life forward. Whether you decide to separate, divorce, or, ultimately, reconcile, you want to know that you’re making your decisions with all the available information at hand. And that’s smart.
You’re in the right place, and you’re asking the right questions.

Request a free copy of our divorce book

We actually have two divorce books, “What Every Virginia Woman Should Know About Divorce,” and “What Every Virginia Military Wife Needs to Know About Divorce.”  Just request the book that applies to your situation, military or civilian, and we’ll send you an electronic copy right away. (Seriously, right away!)
If you live in our immediate area, we’ll also send you a hard copy of the book. After we send the e–copy, we’ll send another email that asks for a little more information (obviously, we’ll need your address) so we can be sure to send it to the right place. Don’t worry, though; we’re discrete. Our books are sent in plain white envelopes, without flashy return labels so that, if he sees it, he won’t have any idea what’s in the envelope.
What will you learn in our book? A great question. Our divorce books cover all sorts of important Virginia-specific topics, including:
• Grounds for divorce;
• When you’re “legally” separated in Virginia;
• When and how to file for divorce;
• What a pendente lite hearing is;
• How child custody and support are calculated;
• How spousal support works in Virginia;
• All about equitable distribution (the fancy way we divide up marital property);
• How to prepare for divorce;
• What types of questions you should be planning to ask your divorce lawyer;
• And more.
It’s a great place to start! If you’re considering divorce, you should definitely get your copy of our divorce book as soon as possible. What do you have to lose? It’s free!
Not only that, but you’ll also be given the opportunity to enroll in our divorce e-course, a series of emails full of tons of up-to-date, Virginia-specific divorce information, all prepared for you by one of our licensed and experienced divorce attorneys.
Your next step? If you still have unanswered questions, consider attending one of our monthly divorce seminars, “What Every Virginia Woman Should Know About Divorce.” Each seminar is an hour and a half, and taught by one of our Hofheimer Family Law women’s only attorneys. At the seminar, you’ll learn all about how divorce works, and even have the opportunity to ask your questions directly to the attorney. (General questions only, please; it’s not a confidential forum and we can’t discuss case-specific details at the seminar.) It’s a great opportunity to talk to a divorce attorney without paying the cost of a consultation.
The fee to attend the seminar is $50 at the door, or $40 if you pre-register online. Click here to pre-register to attend.
The beginning of the process is the most difficult because you have so few answers and so many decisions to make. Help yourself out by getting up to date, state specific answers directly from licensed, experienced, trial-tested Virginia divorce and custody attorneys. Have questions? Give our office a call at (757) 425-5200.