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Preparing to Coparent with Your Child’s Father

  There are all sorts of issues to work through when you’re navigating a new coparenting relationship – and not all of them are your issues specifically.  If you have tiny humans depending on you, you’re going to have to help them navigate their new normal, all while it’s completely foreign to you, too.  Not...

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A common theme in coparenting is how difficult it is for kids and coparents to transition between each parent’s separate parenting time.  This is probably especially true in the early stages of coparenting – though it generally settles down for many families – but, in some cases, visitation exchanges are always disruptive. Some kids (like...

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  Question: My child’s father and I had a baby 18 months ago.  We still live together, but we’re not romantically involved.  We will never get back together.  (Like, ever.)  I’d like to move out, so I’m considering consulting an attorney about custody and visitation.  I’m worried I’m gearing up for a huge custody battle....

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Not all Narcissists Make Divorce Awful

I know, I know.  If you’re married to a narcissist – whether diagnosed or undiagnosed – you KNOW how miserable they can make life.  And, if left to their own devices, they’d probably love to make divorce difficult, too. After all, if there’s one thing a narcissist (or a high conflict person or an abusive...

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Divorcing an Abuser: Is he gaslighting me?

If you’re asking whether he’s gaslighting you, the answer is almost certainly yes.  Right?  I mean, when it comes to abusers, nothing is up to chance.  It’s intentional and he’s doing it on purpose.  It’s designed to impact you in the most cruel way possible. The thing about gaslighting is that it often happens in...

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My Ex is Stalking Me. What Can I Do?

  With so much technology nowadays, stalking is just … too easy.  We see a lot of devices used to keep track of partners (or former partners), but there’s also good, old-fashioned, boots-on-the-ground stalking, too.  So, what can you do? Well, it depends on the behaviors.  And, I should also mention, before we get too...

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Coparenting Issues: Spanking

  Question: I admit – I sometimes ‘bop’ my children on the bottom when they aren’t listening.  My child’s father, who has been largely uninvolved, has told my children that this is child abuse, and says he will call CPS if he hears that it ever happens again.  Because of this, my children are being...

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Coparenting Issues: Disparaging Comments

  One very common provision in custody agreements (or separation agreements, if your custody case is part of a larger divorce action) is that neither party will make disparaging comments about the child’s other parent in the presence or hearing of the child. Sounds easy, right?   Don’t talk badly about each other.  Full stop. It’s...

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