You might be surprised to hear how often a marriage ends in divorce – only to later find the two people involved back together again. I know it surprised me, when I first started, how many times we could divorce the same people. But for all the people getting their second divorce from the same...
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In all litigated cases, whether for custody or divorce, there came a point where one party or the other decided that there was nothing left to do but file something with the court. It’s a scary moment, because taking a case to court means that, in many ways, its out of your hands. Now, instead...
There are always lots of fights over custody and visitation. I imagine, to some extent, that there always will be, because parents who separate after having children typically do so because of substantial compatibility issues. Wherever there are compatibility issues, there are often big differences in philosophies when it comes to raising children. To some...
When a fight is brewing over custody of the children, it’s important to understand what, exactly, you and your child’s father are really fighting over. A lot of times, I find that people say things like, “I want sole custody!” without really distinguishing between legal and physical custody, and separating out what it all means....
Last week, I wrote an article about dads in response to a really interesting TED talk I listened to recently. It’s not that often that I come across content so closely aligned with what I do, and I always think that it’s both interesting and instructive to listen to what the other side (in this...
We’ve talked endlessly about the vocabulary of custody over the years. No matter how many times I write or speak on it, though, I find there are people who are still confused, and who still aren’t sure of the differences, especially between legal and physical custody. Legal custody is simple, and is almost always awarded...
Divorce is … complicated, especially emotionally. I probably don’t need to tell you that, because here you are, but still. I feel like it’s unreasonable and unrealistic to have this conversation without admitting that fact. So, there it is. In divorce, there are issues that are easy – meaning that the law is clear on...
Recently, someone very close to me consulted with me about their divorce. It’s always surprising when very, very close friends and family members divorce, and even more so when that means that they reach out to me in an attempt to make sense of it all. In the very best of times – where...