In my blog yesterday, I wrote about what happens when dad wants to delegate his visitation during deployment to his new wife. This can be a very upsetting thing for moms to have to deal with, especially because it’s typically completely unexpected. There are a lot of competing emotions when a relationship breaks down, and...
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If your child’s father is in the military, he isn’t the only person who can exercise his visitation. A military parent who is deploying has the ability to delegate his visitation to a family member, including a step parent, provided that the court finds that this delegation satisfies a two part test. First, the family...
Dealing with child custody in military families presents is often a lot more complicated than in non-military families, primarily because the military service member has very little control over his (or her) life. When it’s possible that a parent could be transferred to another location or deployed to another country, there’s a measure of instability...
I think it’s pretty safe to say that Virginia is NOT biased against military when it comes to custody. That does not mean, however, that a Virginia court would find that a deployable military service member is the most appropriate person to have primary physical custody. In Virginia, what the court is looking at is...
It’s pretty scary to imagine going through with your divorce alone, especially if you have to go to court. Almost every single time I go to court with a client, she decides to bring a close friend or family member with her. Though there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this, I encourage you to think carefully...
If you have to go to court in your divorce case, you’re probably pretty nervous. Most people haven’t been to court ever before, unless they had some sort of minor traffic infraction, and being in front of a judge is intimidating. You know that he’s going to hear some of the most intimate details of...
The number one issue in a divorce is money, even though you may think it’s something different. If you go in front of a judge, his (or her) primary concern is going to be how to divide the assets, liabilities, and responsibilities equitably between the parties. I’ve heard a judge say, “To me, this is...
Yesterday, I wrote about how men’s perceptions change during divorce. I think the problem is that, rather than thinking of you as an important member of the same team, they start to think of you as a threat. Sometimes, in my spare time, I Google things like “divorce secrets for men,” and “father’s rights in...