There are always lots of fights over custody and visitation. I imagine, to some extent, that there always will be, because parents who separate after having children typically do so because of substantial compatibility issues. Wherever there are compatibility issues, there are often big differences in philosophies when it comes to raising children. To some...
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When a fight is brewing over custody of the children, it’s important to understand what, exactly, you and your child’s father are really fighting over. A lot of times, I find that people say things like, “I want sole custody!” without really distinguishing between legal and physical custody, and separating out what it all means....
Last week, I wrote an article about dads in response to a really interesting TED talk I listened to recently. It’s not that often that I come across content so closely aligned with what I do, and I always think that it’s both interesting and instructive to listen to what the other side (in this...
We’ve talked endlessly about the vocabulary of custody over the years. No matter how many times I write or speak on it, though, I find there are people who are still confused, and who still aren’t sure of the differences, especially between legal and physical custody. Legal custody is simple, and is almost always awarded...
Divorce is … complicated, especially emotionally. I probably don’t need to tell you that, because here you are, but still. I feel like it’s unreasonable and unrealistic to have this conversation without admitting that fact. So, there it is. In divorce, there are issues that are easy – meaning that the law is clear on...
It’s no secret that educating and empowering women is our schtick, and that it’s super important to us. At this point, we’ve spent over THIRTY years (well, not ME, personally) offering our popular women’s-only Virginia divorce seminar. We’ve spent over TWENTY years offering our popular title, “What Every Virginia Woman Needs to Know About Divorce”,...
Recently, someone very close to me consulted with me about their divorce. It’s always surprising when very, very close friends and family members divorce, and even more so when that means that they reach out to me in an attempt to make sense of it all. In the very best of times – where...
I recently watched a TED talk from a woman who – like me – is a divorce attorney. Unlike me, though, she has built her career on representing dads in divorce and custody cases. Her talk was entirely about the importance of a dad in a kid’s life, and, essentially, all the terrible things...