My first custody court date

My first custody court date

If your first custody court date is coming up, you’re probably a barrel full of nerves. If you’re anything like me, whenever anything stressful is approaching, you get that “can’t eat, can’t sleep” feeling. When it relates to your children, that feeling is probably amplified by, like, a million – and, especially since we’re dealing...

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Moms Versus Dads in Virginia Custody Cases

Full Disclosure: Our firm represents women exclusively in divorce and custody cases.  If you’re looking for something written by activists for Father’s rights, you’re in the wrong place. Custody cases are complicated and constantly changing, which probably explains why there is so much misunderstanding out there.  I meet with one woman who tells me she...

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Substance Abuse and Custody

Lots of people struggle with substance abuse.  Lots.  Over the years, I’ve seen many, many women who tell me that they struggled with a drug or alcohol addiction.  I think, because they’re often so used to being judged for the issues that they’ve faced, they fully expect to be told that they won’t be able...

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He just wants to pay less child support

I see it all the time. It makes me sad, but it’s just the way it is. For a lot of dads, their chief motivation is figuring out some way to pay less child support — or, even better, none at all. To them, I think, it feels like a long term monthly payment to...

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Virginia Child Support Guidelines

If there’s anything that’s lagging behind the times in divorce and custody, it’s child support guidelines.  (Just kidding.  This is Virginia.  We’re lagging behind in a lot of places, I’m just choosing to talk about one area that, in my opinion, is particularly behind the times.) It’s kind of like no one has any idea...

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What to expect at a pendente lite hearing

One of the main reasons people file on fault first isn’t because that would necessarily be their first choice.  Many women would prefer to negotiate a separation agreement instead, and not only because an uncontested divorce is typically cheaper, easier, and much quicker.  For a number of reasons, though, they may feel more or less...

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Virginia Joint Legal Custody and Church

Custody in Virginia comes in one of two types: legal and physical. A lot of the time, we’re fighting over physical custody, because that has to do with where the child spends the majority of his or her time. But, of course, that’s not always the case. Every so often, different issues come up, and,...

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Parental Kidnapping in Virginia

It happens semi regularly that we end up with a client who has moved with her child (or children) to another state over dad’s objection.  If dad doesn’t care, it’s not a really big deal.  If he does, though, and he files an emergency petition for custody, you could find yourself up the proverbial creek...

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