Should I report his adultery to his military command?

All too often, the answers that I give to the questions that I’m asked are complicated and multifaceted. A question that a woman describes to me as “simple” ends up being anything but simple, after I’ve covered all the bases and explained all the possible advantages, disadvantages, things to be aware of, and vagaries of...

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Should I call his CO about his cheating?

The military has its own specific set of rules that military service members must follow, including a very specific prohibition against adultery. Not only that, but “fraternization” between fellow military service members is also frowned upon. Whenever anyone finds out that their partner is cheating, it’s devastating. It’s a huge betrayal of trust and confidence....

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