Question: When my husband and I married, he owned a home. It was in his name but not paid off; we paid the mortgage together and made small improvements over time. Later, I became disabled. I took some money that I had – a little bit from an inheritance, and some from my retirement accounts...
Divorce, Home Improvement, and Disability: Question
For the most part, if you have a well-drafted separation agreement or even a very basic court order, you should be clear on what, exactly, needs to happen to wrap everything up with a nice little bow on top once your divorce is finalized. Sometimes, though, that is not the case – whether because of...
No matter how long you were married, the assets you generated in your marriage matter. Not only will you never be younger, but – if you waive too much – you’ll never have the chance to take advantage of compounding interest. That can be the difference between being able to retire and … not. Sure,...
Very few things in the world are truly ‘one size fits all,’ even though it can sometimes feel that way. There is more than one solution to a problem and the same is true for spousal support. Though many women – and it’s not always women, but, hey, that’s my audience – receive a certain...
As far as equitable distribution – the legal process where your assets and liabilities are divided during divorce – is concerned, division of the retirement accounts is pretty easy. But, because retirement accounts represent a large portion of what most people have saved throughout their lives, they are also very emotionally complicated. The higher earning...
For a long time, I thought the ten year myth – the idea that you had to be married for ten years to be entitled to a portion of the military retirement – was limited to military divorces only. Please note, of course, that I called it a MYTH. I didn’t realize that many civilians...
I used to get lots of questions about common law marriage. Lately, well, not so much – until the other day. A woman asked me what, in my opinion, was a very perceptive question about whether marriage is designed to be a safeguard to protect spouses (and, in particular, lesser earning spouses). Most of the...
If there is a phrase I HATE in family law – along with calling a woman a golddigger – it’s a man referencing being taken to the cleaners. It’s rooted in such, deep, toxic internalized misogyny that it’s hard for me to believe anyone really believes it, but – then again – the world has...