Virginia Divorce When You Don’t Know Where He Is

Divorce is hard enough in normal circumstances, but when you don’t know where your soon-to-be ex is living, it’s even harder.  You may be surprised, too, to find out how often it happens! The biggest issue associated with not knowing where he is has to do with service of process.  Basically, it’s a Constitutional requirement.  When...

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Common Custody Issues: His Parenting Time

  It’s hard to transition from having custody of your child full time to sharing custody, no matter what specific allocation of time your child’s father gets.  Sharing holidays is a challenge, especially when you consider that it means that there will be major holidays that you’ll spend alone.  Any deviation from the standard schedule...

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The military has all sorts of policies which can make separation, divorce, and child custody especially confusing as a military spouse.  On top of the military policies, too, there are many laws at the state level that will impact how your separation, divorce, and/or custody case will proceed, some of which supersede the military policies. ...

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Few things in the world are scarier than facing a custody and visitation case.  Few things, too, are more difficult to gather up-to-date, state-specific information about – at least, if the information you’re looking for is also credible. There are a lot of non-attorneys out there offering advice and opinions, much of which – though...

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New Year, New Divorce Filing

Divorce is, historically speaking, one of the busiest months of the year for divorce.  For the most part, November and December are generally the slowest; after all, who wants to get divorced during the holidays? It’s not so much that I think divorce is somehow tied to a new year’s resolution – though it certainly...

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Post Separation Bonus

Is it time to separate?  That may be a strategic question and not just an emotional one. In Virginia, we classify separate property as anything that was earned, purchased, or acquired before the marriage or after the date of separation.  (We also include anything you inherited in your sole name, anything that was a gift...

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Coparenting Issues: Are You Gatekeeping?

There are a million different issues that come up in coparenting.  One of them – or, at least, one of the ones I hear about the most often – is gatekeeping. As a mom myself, I can completely relate.  All of the information coming at you about the kids at all times can feel insane. ...

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Holiday Custody and Visitation

The holidays are a tough time in general, but they’re even tougher if you’re new to the whole separation and divorce thing.  The first set of holidays is, I think, the hardest, but that doesn’t mean that each year doesn’t present its own difficulties. My advice with respect to holiday custody and visitation is the...

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