Calculating Military Retirement Benefits Will Make Your Head Hurt in Hampton, VA One of the more complicated topics for a military spouse going through a divorce is how to calculate her marital share of the servicemember’s retirement. Before we even get to that, we need to be able to calculate what the actual, total military...
Monthly Archive: March 2013
Especially since we live in an area with a large military population, relocation is a big issue in divorce and custody cases. We have lots of women here just because this is where their husbands were stationed. They have no particular attachment to the area, and their entire family support system is somewhere else. When...
In Virginia, condonation is a defense to a divorce filed on grounds of adultery. Condonation happens when you know that your husband has committed adultery and, after learning of it, you sleep with him. It works in reverse, too. If you’re the one who committed the adultery, and he sleeps with you after learning of...
How Can I Have A Sense of Humor When My Husband Has No Sense of Honor? In many of these posts, I have attempted to sprinkle in a little levity here and there. However, in almost all of the cases I work on, one side is usually more hurt and broken than the other –...
When you first find out about your husband’s affair, or you start to suspect it, it can be difficult not to take immediate action. You’re angry, you’re hurt, and you’re scared—what does it mean for you, your marriage, and your future? It’s too soon to tell, but it’s not too soon for you to be...
One of the most difficult things you can do during your divorce is attempt to live separately in the same home. Though it has become a necessity for many couples who can’t afford two separate physical spaces, it’s definitely something that comes with a number of difficulties. Once you’ve separated, you have to also stop...
Living separate in the same home usually creates a lot of drama. In many ways, it’s much better if you can actually live separately—but, financially, that may not be an option for every couple. In order to live separate and apart, you have to prove to the judge that there has been no cohabitation. Cohabitation...
Does My Attorney Really Understand My Military Divorce? Sometimes I wonder why the military loves acronyms. It’s not just any one branch of service either. They all love little loaded words like PCS, TAD, TEMADD, IA, DITY moves…and more frustrating, there isn’t a dictionary you can readily buy beforehand to learn all of these acronyms....