3 Ways Your Ex May Try to Alienate You from Your Kids after a Virginia divorce

Posted on May 8, 2011 by Hofheimer Family Law

If you have suffered a Virginia divorce but also are dealing with an angry ex-husband you may be at risk for parental alienation.

The 3 ways that your ex may try to alienate you from your kids after a Virginia divorce include:

  • criticizing you;
  • spoiling your child; and
  • withholding information.

Joint custody in Virginia is difficult enough without your ex using parental alienation to manipulate your child’s feelings. When your ex complains about you when you aren’t around to defend yourself he is acting inappropriately. He may be upset about the custody ruling or bitter about the split but he should not be allowed to hatefully disparage you to your child.

Your ex could make you look bad to your child in other ways as well, without outright criticisms. He can try to make you look bad by comparison by showering your child with expensive gifts or trips, or even indulging your child by allowing activities that used to be off-limits.

When your ex lets your child stay up late watching R-rated movies and eating junk food your house seems less appealing. Familiarize yourself with Virginia child custody laws so you’ll know when your ex is acting out of turn.

An uncommunicative ex can be just as bad as one that goes out of his way to criticize or spoil. When an ex withholds information from you, like the days and times of a child’s dance recital or sporting event you appear disinterested when you are absent from these important events. When an ex refuses to communicate with you he may be using parental alienation.

Contacting a Virginia Child Custody Lawyer

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