From the moment that you and your husband separate, you’re no longer batting on the same team. You can’t speak to each other the way you used to, and you certainly shouldn’t just automatically trust him. As far as the children are concerned, you should always been looking for ways to cooperate and co-parent more...
Divorce
Many women are terrified about the possibility of their divorce winding up in court. I can understand the feeling. It’s definitely disconcerting to give someone who knows so little about your case (usually, he only knows whatever he can learn in the thirty minutes to one hour that has been allotted for your hearing) so...
If you and your husband recently separated, you’re probably wondering what your next move should be. You’re also probably feeling scared, overwhelmed, or angry, and you don’t want to let your emotions run away with you at such a critical time. You know that the choices you make now can have a tremendous impact on...
I’ve said it before, and I’ll probably have to say it again: you should always be extremely careful about what you post on social media sites. It’s true all the time, but it’s especially true if you’re going through a divorce or custody case. Remember that some of what you do, say, and photograph should...
Sometimes I wonder whether anyone even cares about adultery anymore. Sure, it matters to the spouse who has been cheated on, but, at least in the court system, adultery seems to be losing serious ground. In the olden days, adultery was the only grounds for divorce. If there wasn’t adultery, you were stuck. These days,...
So, who keeps the house? In most divorces, this is a loaded question. Usually, there’s some sort of problem. Either both parties want it, neither wants it, or one wants it for far, far less than the other is willing to give it up for. I get it: the house is an important piece of...
A separation agreement is a legal contract between you and your husband that specifically sets forth the obligations of both parties after the dissolution of the marriage. It handles things like spousal support, child support, custody, and how the marital assets will be divided. I like to encourage my clients to think of these as...
It always surprises me that many normally rational women will come in to my office and say things like, “I know I don’t have a right to that; he told me so!” I really don’t understand why these same women will then tell me that he’s a habitual liar. “You can’t trust anything he says,”...