Divorce Declutter — Peter Walsh on Oprah XMRadio hosts Stacy Kaiser and Jean Chatzky (By Mary Elizabeth Davis)

Posted on Feb 9, 2009 by Hofheimer Family Law

Peter Walsh's radio show on Oprah and Friends was about clutter and divorce this weekend. He gave great tips on how to declutter and to focus on your future as you move forward through the transition of divorce. Guest Stacy Kaiser spoke of the four F's as you shape your post-divorce life: Friends, Finances, Feelings, and Future.

Friends — Develop your network of good friends to help support you emotionally. Know who you can rely on to be there for you.

Finances — Make decisions about which assets to keep from a non-emotional place. The family home may be too expensive for you to maintain; you might be better off selling the home and taking a larger share of retirement assets.

Feelings — Focus on how you are feeling. Get help from a counselor or therapist to help you get through this difficult time.

Future — Use the divorce to focus on how you want your life to be. (As Oprah says, live your best life.)

Peter Walsh added a fifth F, for Fun. I agree. It's important to have good self-care and some enjoyment.

Guest Jean Chatzky spoke about the financial aspects of divorce. One of her main points is that women must strive to have assets in their own names. She stated how important it is to get legal advice prior to making decisions. Ms. Chatzky also gave a strong recommendation for collaborative law as a way for the parties to reach resolutions without "banging heads."

You can listen to a clip from the radio show here: