Even though we’ve all heard tons of horror stories about divorce, I find that a lot of people don’t really have any actual idea about what’s involved in a divorce. All too often these days, most of what we “know” (or think we know) comes from TV rather than from actual experience. If you’re facing...
What happens AFTER I file for divorce?
They say a woman becomes a mother the moment she finds out she’s pregnant, and I think that’s so true. If you’re a mom, you’ve made a lot of sacrifices for the sake of your kids—and you’ve been making them since day 1. You’ve worked hard to provide your child with a beautiful childhood, and...
We literally get calls every single day from women asking whether we will take their cases pro bono. I’m not sure where this all got started, but the reality is that we really can’t take entire cases pro bono. That doesn’t mean that your case isn’t serious, or that your financial situation isn’t bleak. It...
For the third year in a row, Hofheimer Family Law is offering three special promotions for Virginia Moms on Mother’s Day. (Well, if we’re getting technical, it’s the Monday AFTER Mother’s Day, because Mother’s Day is on a Sunday.) Moms are special. We are so aware of that fact every single day, doing what we...
If you’re struggling with the idea of divorce, you’re not alone. I’ve never met a woman yet who didn’t take her marriage vows seriously, and who doesn’t lament breaking them when she sets foot in my office. In fact, I’ve talked to dozens of women who specifically tell me how much guilt they experience at...
When you file a case in the circuit court, it’s a matter of public record. Divorces, therefore, since they are filed in the circuit court, are public record. When you file a divorce, your complaint is either served on your husband by a sheriff or returned to you (or your divorce lawyer, if you’re represented...
Most of the time, divorce is a negotiating process. It’s like haggling and, if you’re like me, and haggling always made you super uncomfortable, don’t worry. It’s really not so bad. There is a lot of posturing, though, and oftentimes the first offer isn’t a very good offer (so the tendency is for some women...
Before you do anything new, you ask a lot of questions. Before you book a vacation to a new resort, you ask your travel agent. Before you open a new investment account, you talk to an account manager. Before you buy a house, you talk to a realtor. Before you enroll your child in a...