I want to leave my marriage, but my kids won’t come. What can I do?

Question: My marriage has been over for years and I’m ready to end it.  The problem is, my kids – now teenagers – are refusing to come with me.  They want to be near their school and their friends.  What happens if they don’t come?  I need to start this separation so I can move...

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Types of Spousal Support Awards

Very few things in the world are truly ‘one size fits all,’ even though it can sometimes feel that way.  There is more than one solution to a problem and the same is true for spousal support. Though many women – and it’s not always women, but, hey, that’s my audience – receive a certain...

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As far as equitable distribution – the legal process where your assets and liabilities are divided during divorce – is concerned, division of the retirement accounts is pretty easy.  But, because retirement accounts represent a large portion of what most people have saved throughout their lives, they are also very emotionally complicated. The higher earning...

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Divorce is a challenge, no matter what.  There are, though, some cases that are even more difficult than normal.  It can be hard, in the very early days, to accurately judge a case and determine whether *this* case will be one of the more difficult ones. One of the hardest things to navigate – in...

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Mediation can be a cost effective way to resolve issues without having to go to court, but it’s still nice to be able to choose whether (or not) to participate in any mediated processes.  For one thing, mediators vary wildly – some are attorneys though most are not; some have familiarity with difficult personalities and...

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If you’re here, you probably already know that you have to be separated for one year to get a divorce in Virginia.  The only two exceptions are if (1) you have a signed separation agreement, and (2) you have no minor children born or adopted by the parties of the marriage, and if (and this...

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If you’re military, you’re probably used to availing yourself of all the amenities military life offers.  If you had a landlord/tenant issue, for example, you’d probably go to base legal, or speak to a JAG attorney – and, in many ways, a divorce feels no different.  Right?  You need legal advice, you go to the...

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What should my first steps be pre-divorce?

Most of the questions that we get – at least in the early stages of a separation or divorce – is a basic one.  “What should I do first?” It’s a good question, too, because I think it’s always smart to go into something knowing what to expect and having at least the outlines of...

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