Monthly Archive: May 2009

Virginia Divorce Tips For Women

1. Be prepared to meet with your divorce attorney by having a list of questions that you would like answered. 2. Provide your attorney with relevant events and information in the form of a summary of your marriage and/or custody issues. Try bullet points without a lot of emotional commentary so that your attorney does...

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The Womens Custody Survival Handbook

Kristen Hofheimer's new book is currently being printed at the publisher. Be sure to check back soon for more information on how to get your copy. Take a sneak peak at the contents here: http://www.virginiadivorceattorney.com/library/Pages_from_womens_custody_book.pdf...

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Be Your Best Advocate

You may have a outstanding attorney, a highly qualified therapist and a great support system, but nobody can advocate for you like you do. If you have a good and trusting relationship with your attorney, heed his or her advice on what to do, how to look, what to say, and, probably most importantly, what...

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Does he REALLY have to support you in the "manner to which you've become accustomed?" In Virginia, the Courts are instructed to consider 12 specific (and one catch-all) factors in awarding spousal support, including "The standard of living established during the marriage." The other factors are 1. the needs, obligations and financial resources of both...

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So many times, my clients want witnesses to just be able to write a letter rather than appear in court. Unfortunately, this is not a college application, and your witnesses need to be in court. You aren't asking for a reference, you're asking for someone to come to be a witness in your case. Anyone...

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Peter Walsh's radio show on Oprah and Friends was about clutter and divorce this weekend. He gave great tips on how to declutter and to focus on your future as you move forward through the transition of divorce. Guest Stacy Kaiser spoke of the four F's as you shape your post-divorce life: Friends, Finances, Feelings,...

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The Largest law firm in America representing women only in divorce and custody announces the launch of the first edition of their firm newsletter. BRIEF WINS ! Included in the newletter are a variety of articles by the firm lawyers discussing issues like "who gets the family pet?", "How do you live separate and apart...

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My number one cardinal rule (there are 24 more) for women going through divorce is that you must look out for yourself first. That's right, Not the children first but YOU first. Most attorneys will tell you and many judges will pontificate about always putting the children first. They live in the ideal, not the...

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