3 Things to Remember When Parenting After Divorce in Virginia

Posted on Jan 28, 2012 by Hofheimer Family Law

Are you going through a divorce and facing Virginia child custody wars? There are many important details to remember when parenting after divorce, but if you can remember and practice a few basic rules, you’ll be off to a good start.

  • Be realistic about scheduling. Some parents with shared custody insist on splitting the child’s time 50/50 between the two households. This isn’t always the most practical idea. If, for example, you find that the child’s stability is disrupted by spending half the week at 1 parent’s house and the other half of the week at the other, it might be advisable to go with a weekday/weekend split instead.
  • Keep the lines of communication open. You and your ex should discuss your scheduling, discipline methods, spending and other details of your parenting plans. Also, be sure to talk with your child about any changes taking place after the divorce. This way your child can feel secure, and you and your ex can present a united parenting front and avoid unnecessary disagreements.
  • Keep it friendly. Even if you and your ex still have issues, don’t air them in front of the kids. Calling each other names or being intentionally cruel and disparaging when speaking about (or to) your ex in front of the children isn’t healthy and will serve only to make your Virginia child custody arrangement unpleasant.

Even though you are divorced, you are still part of a family, and with some time and patience you and your children can settle into a satisfying new life.

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