Assessing Your Best Approach to Co-Parenting After a Virginia Divorce

Posted on Apr 15, 2011 by Hofheimer Family Law

When you’re co-parenting after a divorce, you may run into some disagreements with your ex over childrearing issues. This is somewhat expected when you’re adjusting to a new custody arrangement, or even after you’ve been co-parenting for years.

It’s often hard to know the best strategy for handling contrasting views when you’re co-parenting after divorce. There are so many emotions between ex-spouses they may find themselves having a hard time using a logical approach to addressing problems with the kids.

Also, children splitting their time between two households may sometimes (intentionally or not) relate misinformation to you and your spouse and end up riling you both. You should determine the facts about the situation before deciding on how you’ll handle it.

Your first impulse may be to give your a ex a piece of your mind, but upon further reflection decide the matter is best addressed in a more subtle way. In other cases, you may findthe incident calls for you to intervene more strongly and make your objections known.

Whatever you do, avoid speaking about your ex in a disrespectful or abusive way, especially when your children are present
. This is one thing that can severely sabotage your efforts when co-parenting after divorce.

If you find you’re still struggling with cooperating with your ex, consider therapy for the whole family. Therapy can be very helpful in improving communications between you, your ex-husband and your kids.

Contacting a Virginia Child Custody Lawyer

The decision to file for divorce usually comes at the end of a long and painful journey. In addition to the emotional turmoil involved, there’s also a lot of fear and uncertainty about what the future holds. Concerns about children, mortgages, and even just paying the bills or buying groceries can easily become overwhelming.

A Virginia child custody lawyer at Hofheimer Family Law Firm can examine the specifics of your case to help you decide how much support to ask for, what child custody arrangement will work best for you and your children, and how to fairly divide your marital assets. Request a FREE copy of our divorce book for women in Virginia, or reserve your seat at our monthly divorce seminar – 757-425-5200.