1. Nobody will look out for you like you will. The best attorney in the world cannot know or care as much about your outcome as you do, so partner with your attorney, set achievable goals and keep communicating. 2. Do not make your children your confidantes during your divorce – children should be allowed...
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As we get started, I want to share ten of 25 basic truths about divorce that I have learned while helping women get divorced. The remaining 15 will be discussed in my next blog on 6/16/09. 1. Look out for yourself first! If you’re okay, your kids will be okay. Just like on the airplane,...
Who is on your divorce team and why are they there? "Team"? "Who said anything about a divorce team"? you ask. Yep, You have a divorce team whether you like it or not. The real question is whether they are helping you or hurting you. No question they think they are helping you and you...
In our monthly divorce seminars "What Every Women Needs to Kow about Divorce" and in my book "What Every Virginia Woman Should Know about Divorce" Women learn not only the grounds for divorce: adultery, sodomy,buggery, desertion, constructive desertion, cruelty, felony conviction and no fault, but also they learn about affirmative defenses. Affirmative Defenses are defenses...
Divorce/Custody "Mindset"–You have probably never heard the term. Yet, your "mindset" will often determine the results you achieve in your divorce or custody case. "Mindset" is conditioning your mind and thoughts to achieve positive outcomes. In short "What the mind can conceive, the heart can believe, you can achieve !" This is not pollyanna thinking....
1. Be prepared to meet with your divorce attorney by having a list of questions that you would like answered. 2. Provide your attorney with relevant events and information in the form of a summary of your marriage and/or custody issues. Try bullet points without a lot of emotional commentary so that your attorney does...
You may have a outstanding attorney, a highly qualified therapist and a great support system, but nobody can advocate for you like you do. If you have a good and trusting relationship with your attorney, heed his or her advice on what to do, how to look, what to say, and, probably most importantly, what...