What is adultery? (And sodomy and buggery?)

What is adultery? (And sodomy and buggery?)

Sometimes, I feel really technical when I talk about adultery. I say when someone “commits” adultery, and I always feel weird about it, because that’s not how people talk. And I often get questions about exactly what it means, which is understandable – it’s a technical term, like cohabitation and equitable distribution. Lawyers use it...

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Should I call his CO about his cheating?

The military has its own specific set of rules that military service members must follow, including a very specific prohibition against adultery. Not only that, but “fraternization” between fellow military service members is also frowned upon. Whenever anyone finds out that their partner is cheating, it’s devastating. It’s a huge betrayal of trust and confidence....

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Can I have a boyfriend after separation?

I get asked all the time what the general rule is with respect to getting a boyfriend after separation.  To be fair, a fair number of my clients tell me that they’ll never remarry and that men are scum, but there are plenty of others who are looking for love before the ink is dry...

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I cheated on my husband. What do I do?

You cheated on your husband. The marriage has been breaking down for a long time and, in a moment of weakness, you gave in. It wasn’t your proudest moment. And now you’re a little scared. You know that, in Virginia, adultery is one of the fault based grounds for divorce. What should you do next?...

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