Are you separated – and headed towards divorce – or just separated and ultimately hoping to reconcile? Sometimes it’s clear. Other times, though, it’s anything but. In any case, whatever you’re hoping for in the long term, you probably have a lot of questions about what to expect and what you should be doing. That’s...
Advice for Recently Separated Women
Question: My girlfriend is married. They have two kids and jointly own the home that they live in. He’s Navy, but they’re not in military housing – like I said, they own jointly. She had an attorney draft a separation agreement, but he’s ignoring her. He is manipulative and locks her out of the house. ...
I see this question *all* the time, especially on social media in the various mom groups that I have joined over the years. I never know exactly how to answer it – especially in few enough characters that most casual social media users won’t be bored by me writing an entire treatise – so I...
In general, I feel that the question, “Should I stay or should I go?” is one that is best answered by the specific woman who is questioning whether she should end her marriage. I don’t usually like to weigh in. I may provide some general guidelines or try to give her some food for thought,...
The studies have consistently shown that kids do better with navigating a divorce and/or separation situation within their own family when they can see other similar families. That’s not to say that your kids can’t have play dates with kids whose parents are still happily married or that you need to seek out the other...
Family law cases – often involving divorce, child custody, child support and spousal support – are often very invasive. In discovery, the legal process that we use to determine what the issues are in an ongoing case that has been filed with the court, we often ask for all sorts of documents. In a divorce...
Mediation can be a cost effective way to resolve issues without having to go to court, but it’s still nice to be able to choose whether (or not) to participate in any mediated processes. For one thing, mediators vary wildly – some are attorneys though most are not; some have familiarity with difficult personalities and...
Most of the questions that we get – at least in the early stages of a separation or divorce – is a basic one. “What should I do first?” It’s a good question, too, because I think it’s always smart to go into something knowing what to expect and having at least the outlines of...