Talking to Your Children about Your Divorce

Posted on Feb 5, 2010 by Hofheimer Family Law

Divorces are difficult on everyone in a family, especially children. When telling your children about your decision to get a Virginia divorce, it is important to make them feel safe and loved, even though mommy and daddy no longer want to be married.

Before you and your husband speak with your children, it is important to agree on what you are going to say about the split. By establishing your story, you avoid having an argument in front of your children. It may be worth speaking with a counselor who specializes in divorce to get advice on what to say.

You should tell your children as a couple that your marriage is ending. This lets your children know that even though you are getting a divorce, they still have a family and both parents will still be active in their lives.

During the discussion with your children, it is important to be honest without divulging any details that will unnecessarily hurt your children’s feelings. Give as many honest answers as you can without placing blame on your husband or making him look bad.

One of the most important things you should tell your children is that the divorce is not their fault.
Often, children blame themselves for their parents’ breakup. Let them know that is it an adult decision and that their behavior is not responsible for your choice to get a divorce.

Browse our library to learn more about how to talk to your family about a divorce.

Retaining a Virginia Divorce Lawyer

If you have children, and are facing divorce, it is important to speak with an experienced Virginia divorce attorney. At this vulnerable time, it’s critical that you have exceptional legal representation that not only understands the specifics of your case, but is dedicated to your best interests and that of your family.

The Virginia divorce attorneys at Hofheimer Family Law Firm exclusively represent Virginia women who wish to file for divorce. We are committed to fighting for your rights, assisting in child custody disputes, and ensuring that you receive everything you are entitled to and need in order to start your new life. Contact us to set up a consultation of your case – (757) 425-5200.