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Postpartum Depression and Divorce

By Katie Carter

Bringing a baby into the world is, simultaneously, one of the most wonderful and most terrifying things that can happen to a woman. Having done it twice now myself – both c-sections, the first one an emergency – I can attest to that, for sure. I don’t think I fully appreciated the changes that motherhood…

Can I force my child’s father to quarantine after risk of COVID-19 exposure?

By Katie Carter

As we prepare for a second wave of coronavirus infections (assuming, of course, that we aren’t already in the middle of it now), many people have really high anxiety. It’s sad that dealing with a worldwide pandemic has become such a political issue, with people on both sides of the spectrum weighing in with completely…

Increased childcare expenses during the pandemic

By Katie Carter

For many Americans, the pandemic has changed day to day life in ways that still feel surreal. One of the most important ways that the world has changed is the way that we work; for many of us, virtual work has become the norm, as we’ve transitioned away from traditional office work spaces. Still others…

I have an ongoing, complicated divorce or custody case. What should I do?

By Katie Carter

Divorce and custody cases can be pretty complicated. Though these things can take shape in all sorts of different ways, generally speaking, when we meet with someone who already has a case going on and who is either checking up on the decisions her lawyer is making or is ready to fire her first (or…

Can’t you just take my case on pro bono?

By Katie Carter

Family law is hard. I know you know, if you’re facing a family law case. And you can bet your boots I know, because it’s what I do day in and day out. Divorce and custody cases are hard, both for the people going through it — and also for the lawyers involved! I…

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What’s a reasonable custody and visitation agreement?

By Katie Carter

What is a reasonable agreement when it comes to custody and visitation? This is a question we get a lot – hey, I understand! – from concerned moms who are wondering what’ll happen after they separate from their child’s father. What should a custody and visitation agreement look like? How much time with my kids…

Can my child choose which parent should have custody?

By Katie Carter

It’s pretty universally acknowledged that children – even very young children (and perhaps maybe especially very young children) – have very strong preferences. For my son (who is 3), the strongest of those centers around the color blue, which no one else is allowed to like except for him. Any toy that happens to be…

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Tag with: best interests of the child | coparenting | custody | divorce

Second Saturday Seminar Now Online

By Katie Carter

Well, it finally happened – we’re moving forward into this century (hats off to you, COVID-19, for pushing us to push the envelope!) and moving our live monthly divorce seminars to a digital webinar format. It really does feel momentous. In the 9 years since I’ve been with the firm, I’ve had to present the divorce…

Is collaborative divorce right for me?

By Katie Carter

When it comes to divorce, there’s often a lot of fear involved. One of the biggest fears – for husbands and wives – is the threat of litigation. Litigation, though useful in certain circumstances, is complicated. It’s incredibly costly, with parties often spending far, far more than their counterparts pay for negotiated, mediated, or collaborative…

Can you take my ongoing family law case?

By Katie Carter

We get calls all the time to request second opinions on ongoing cases, particularly in cases where there has been a breakdown in the relationship between the woman and her current attorney. It happens a lot; after all, there’s a lot at stake in a family law case (especially where we’re talking about spousal support…

Will you take my family law appeal case?

By Katie Carter

Will you take my appeal case? We get calls, from time to time, about appeal cases, both for custody and divorce. It’s not the most common type of call – appeals are, after all, more rare than other types of cases – but it happens. Of course it does! In a divorce or a custody…

Dividing Retirement Accounts in Divorce

By Katie Carter

Dividing Retirement Accounts in Virginia Divorce One of the biggest assets that we divide in divorce are retirement accounts. Whether we’re talking about IRAs, 401(k)s, 403(b)s, pensions, stock options, TSPs, or any other type of account, if they were earned during the marriage, they’re marital property and subject to division in any action for divorce….

How do I get him to pay for my Virginia divorce?

By Katie Carter

We can all put divorce right up there on the tippy top of the list of things we don’t want to pay for, right? Even if you want the divorce itself, you don’t really want to pay the costs associated with it. A joke I hear all the time – especially when I tell random…

College Costs in Virginia Divorce

By Katie Carter

College is expensive. I know, I know – not exactly rocket science, right? And, especially in my cases where there are older teenage children, my conversations often begin and end on college education and the costs associated with it. I talk to mothers all the time, and they’re all super concerned about their kids well…

Divorce from an Abuser

By Katie Carter

I actually got into family law as a result of two abusive relationships, so I understand the ways it can shape you, affect your thinking, and alter the future. The first was a run-of-the-mill abusive boyfriend. I didn’t think about his behavior in those terms at the time, of course; it actually took me several…

Divorce help when you can’t afford an attorney

By Katie Carter

Family law is hard. I know you know, if you’re facing a family law case. And you can bet your boots I know, because it’s what I do day in and day out. I understand the love a parent has for a child, having two of my own. I understand the degree to which a…

Grounds for Virginia Divorce

By Katie Carter

My college roommate/best friend texted me this morning to ask whether, in my professional opinion, a recent transgression of her husband’s was grounds for divorce. She included a picture, of a bottle of syrup, with the name “Vermont Maid” proudly displayed across the bottle. I should probably also mention: my friend, Erin, is from Vermont….

When you and your child’s father disagree on a diagnosis

By Katie Carter

It’s hard to have a child with special needs. In this instance, I’m defining “special needs” pretty broadly, to include anything from a child so disabled that he or she will never live independently, and something as small as a general IEP or 504 plan for ADD. A “special need”, as far as I’m concerned,…

Moving with your husband when your marriage is on the rocks

By Katie Carter

It’s not uncommon, over the course of a marriage, for one spouse to receive a job offer that turns things upside down. It seems like a no brainer to accept a change when it might mean a completely different financial future for your family. Of course, that’s not to say it’s easy. You may be…

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Tag with: best interests of the child | divorce | moving | separation

Why won’t a Virginia divorce attorney take my case?

By Katie Carter

It happens sometimes that a potential client walks into our office, tells us their story, and ultimately walks away without a retainer agreement. There are lots of reasons we might not give a retainer agreement. Sometimes the potential client only comes in to get more information. Sometimes, they’re not really ready to move forward just…

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