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By Katie Carter
Negotiating with your husband without your attorney Some people are chronic negotiators. Depending on their circumstances, the nature of their relationship with their soon to be ex, and the facts surrounding the separation, this may or may not be a good thing. I’ve had a handful of really strong minded clients in my day, who come in and tell me what they want. Then, they go home, and tell their husbands. And their husbands just…do it. For whatever reason, they just jump on that train, and … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Is Virginia child custody temporary or permanent? Getting custody and visitation in place may feel like some kind of medieval torture. Whether you’re able to agree (after a fair amount of negotiation) or whether you ultimately need a judge to render a decision, it’s rarely an easy thing to do. When things go south between you and your child’s father, well, all bets are off. Things that you and he used to agree on (or, at least, things that didn’t stir up a major battle) can suddenly become hot … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Communication when your child is sick Having a sick kid is bad enough. Having to deal with your child’s father while you have a sick kid is even worse. Most agreements – and court orders – specify that when the child is in your care, you need to notify the child’s other parent of any illness or injury. Now, I think we can be reasonable here, and assume that doesn’t mean that you have to let your child’s father know every single time your child sneezes or has a slightly runny nose. (Unless, … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Second Saturday: Divorce Seminars for Virginia Women It’s overwhelming to face a big process that you’ve never faced before. Divorce is no exception. In fact, in most cases, it seems to me like it’s the fear of the unknown – the what COULD happens – that keep most women lying awake at night. In many cases, these fears aren’t real or nameable. They’re just things that we worry over, repeatedly, and that gradually take on a life of their own. When I first meet a woman, taking down those fears … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Do I have to respond to my child’s father’s requests for information? When your child’s father abandons you, there are hard feelings. I’ve heard some pretty horrific and heart rending stories throughout the course of my career, and, even though I’ve been doing this a pretty long time at this point, it still weighs on me. A woman I talked to the other day told me how, at two weeks postpartum, she went for a visit to her parents for two weeks. When she got to her parent’s house, her husband told … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Girl’s Night Out at the Ocean View Fishing Pier It’s that time of the year again! It’s time for one of our favorite-ever Girl’s Night Out events at the Ocean View Fishing Pier. If you’ve never been there, you’re probably thinking, “A fishing pier? What?” but that’s only because you’ve never been there. It’s such a cool venue – unlike anywhere else I’ve ever been. At the Ocean View Fishing Pier, there is a pier, yes. I mean, obviously. And you can go fishing. But, even more importantly, … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Overnight (Romantic) Guests After Divorce There are a lot of things that are often important to my clients when it comes to custody post-divorce, but one of the first things they mention (particularly if their divorce is related to some sort of adultery) is that they don’t want overnight guests of the opposite sex while the child is in the other parent’s care. It’s a common provision, and one we often see included in agreements. Sometimes, too, judges order that no overnight romantic guests … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
Working with an Unrepresented Husband in Virginia Divorce One of the biggest thorns in my side is an unrepresented husband. Only just this morning, I received an email from a husband who consistently refuses to sign an attorney who told me he wanted something drawn up that said his wife wouldn’t violate the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act or pursue judgments while he was on deployment. But did he have such a document prepared? No. I can only assume that he wishes for ME to do it on his behalf – … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
What if we want to change our separation agreement later? Things change, especially when your family is in flux. In a divorce, all sorts of things can change, even within a relatively short period of time. If you’re in the military, the chances that things will change increase exponentially. I can’t count the number of times that we’ve negotiated a custody and visitation agreement, only to turn around and find that someone is PCSing. Even with civilian families, things can change at the drop … [Read more...]
By Katie Carter
How do I get sole custody? All moms want sole custody. Hey, I get it – I’m a mom, too. And let’s just say that I share your belief that no one can do it – that is, mom my child – better than I can. And, in your case, there may very well be other issues, too. There’s often domestic violence, or differences in temperament and parenting style. Maybe he has mental health issues, or problems with drug, alcohol, or other substance abuse. There can be lots of reasons -- good, bad, and otherwise – … [Read more...]
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