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Divorce, Economics, and Inflation
When I was a brand new baby lawyer, fresh out of law school, it was a few years after the 2008 real estate crash. At that time, I remember seeing a lot of people – yes, even several years later – who came in with tons of debt and houses that were underwater. At the…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: divorce | marital home | real estate | refinance | retirement accounts | separation | separation under the same roof | spousal support
Women’s Entitlements During and After Virginia Divorce
Historically, divorce has been a bit of taboo. Henry VIII’s legacy notwithstanding, even the British royal family has had its own issues with its various brushes with divorce. In fact, Princess Margaret was the first to divorce in the immediate royal family – in 1978 – since Henry VIII, when he divorced Anne of Cleves…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: alimony | consultation | divorce | divorce book | entitlement | monthly divorce seminar | retirement accounts | separation | spousal support | virginia
Domestic Violence in Virginia Military Divorce Cases
A few months ago, I followed the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard defamation case pretty closely. In a lot of ways, to me, it represents the core of what I do at work, and what I’ve come, personally, to care a lot about. In general, we don’t put much faith in the things that women say. You’d…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: abuse | child custody | child support | divorce | domestic violence | JAG | military divorce | protective order | separation | spousal support | visitation
Virginia Shared Child Custody
There is nothing quite as difficult as determining custody and visitation. As a mother myself, I can completely understand. When you’ve never had to divide your time with your children; when there never was ‘his’ time and ‘her’ time before, grappling with this new kind of divide can be incredibly difficult. How do you…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: 50/50 custody | bad mom | BEST INTERESTS | child support | coparenting | custody | lost custody | material change of circumstances | modifiability | parallel parenting | parenting time | primary custody | shared custody | split custody | visitation
Virginia Material Change of Circumstances
In a divorce, a lot of things are set in stone – regardless of whether the case is finalized by a signed separation agreement negotiated by the parties, or whether the case goes all the way to trial and the judge issues a final order. Things in equitable distribution, like the division of the retirement…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: abusive litigation | best interests of the child | child support | custody | final order | juvenile court | material change | modification | separation agreement | visitation
Virginia SAHM Facing Divorce
Divorce is scary for anyone under any circumstances, but it’s especially scary as a stay at home mom (SAHM) who hasn’t worked outside of the home in a while. While I think we can all recognize that being a stay at home mom is work – in many ways, the hardest work! – the fact…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: child support | contested divorce | discovery | divorce | file for divorce | SAHM | separation | separation agreement | spousal support | stay at home mom | uncontested divorce
USPS Informed Delivery and Virginia Divorce
Even though a lot of things are sent electronically these days, there are still things that come through the mail. Especially if you’re considering a divorce, you’re probably starting to grow concerned about your documents – credit card bills, retirement account statements, mortgage interest statements, communications from the IRS, etc – that may come…
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Once I sign my separation agreement, am I single?
If you’ve had an attorney draft a separation agreement (or your soon to be ex has had an agreement drafted by an attorney), you probably have seen a provision that says that the parties are free to live as though single and unmarried. Sounds nice, right? I mean, yeah – that’s kind of why…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: adultery | after divorce | consultation | dating | divorce | legal separation | living single | separation | separation agreement | sex | single and unmarried | Virginia divorce
Can I switch my divorce from contested to uncontested or vice versa?
No two divorces are exactly the same and they don’t always follow the same pattern. A divorce isn’t like a train on the tracks; it’s more like a roller coaster. There are a lot of highs and lows in between when the divorce proceedings are initiated and before the divorce is finalized. Much like…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: contested | custody | divorce | judicial settlement conference | separation | separation agreement | uncontested
Will weaning impact my Virginia custody arrangement?
Breastfeeding is important for many moms. Even though I think most of us can agree that fed is best and that there is not (or should not be) any stigma for moms who choose to feed their babies formula, breastfeeding is a big deal. We’re bombarded by messages about breastfeeding, and its benefits to both…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: breastfeeding | breastmilk | coparenting | custody and visitation | custody arrangement | doctor | lactation consultant | newborn | nursing | parenting time | pumping
Domestic Abuse and Divorce
Domestic violence is everywhere. It’s a lot more prevalent than most people think, which is pretty alarming. When I started here, over a decade ago now, as a brand new baby lawyer, I was definitely surprised at how often it really happens. When I speak to women who have suffered from domestic abuse, they often…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: apprehension of bodily hurt | best interests of the child | constructive desertion | cruelty | custody | divorce | domestic abuse | domestic violence | exclusive possession | fault based divorce | modification | parental kidnapping | pendente lite | protective order | relocation | separation | separation agreement
A Quick Virginia Divorce
Once you (and your spouse) have made the decision to divorce, you start to worry. How long is it going to take? How much is it going to cost? Will I have enough money to survive on after this is all done? In most cases, the tensions escalate before they deescalate, and there’s a…
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I shouldn’t have to pay for a family law attorney; I’m innocent!
This was a new one for me – “I shouldn’t have to pay for a family law attorney; I’m innocent!” While I do sympathize with the sentiment, there’s also a whole lot wrong with it. In a lot of ways, I know that the way the Virginia court system – and, probably, every court…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: best interests of the child | child custody | child support | criminal law | custody | family law | guilty | innocent | juvenile court | material change in circumstances | personal injury law | protective order | spousal support | virginia court system | visitation
Virginia Child Support Agreements Regarding College Expenses
We talked a little bit about college expenses last week, but I had a conversation with another attorney in my office about it and felt like there was still more to say. In Virginia, there is no provision for child support to be paid after a child turns 19 or graduates from high school….
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: child support | college | college expenses | coparenting | Lori Michaud | separation agreement
But I don’t need Va child support!
It doesn’t happen often, but occasionally a woman tells me that she doesn’t ‘need’ child support. It’s an interesting comment, and one that I feel kind of confused by. What do you mean – you don’t need it? Child support, after all, is not designed for the comfort of the parent receiving it; it’s…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: 529 | child support | coparenting | extracurriculars | investments | parenting time | primary physical custody | shared physical custody | support | visitation
College Expenses in Virginia Custody Cases
One thing to remember about custody and visitation cases in Virginia (and everywhere else) is that you’re playing a long game. So many parents get wrapped up in the next court hearing and tie all their hopes and dreams on it, when, in reality, contested cases usually play out over years and years of hearings….
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: child support | college | college costs | college expenses | coparenting | custody and visitation | divorce | parenting time | separation
Should I waive spousal support?
I like to say that, when it comes to divorce and custody cases, there aren’t a lot of rules. I mean, there are some rules – after all, we have to follow the Code of Virginia – but what I mean is that, when it comes down to determining what’s right and wrong for…
Filled under: Uncategorized Tag with: child support | coparenting | marital home | retirement | spousal support | terminating factors | waiver
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