More and more frequently, I am seeing women who are better off financially than their husbands. There are still a large number of women who are disadvantaged economically, usually because of the dual constraints of raising children and maintaining a household, but this number seems to be decreasing. Or, at least, the number of women...
Monthly Archive: February 2013
When it comes to your children, you’re really not ever done. Even after you and your child’s father have separated, divorced, and, in some cases, been on opposing sides of a litigated custody case, you’re not done, and no one has “won.” In fact, it’s a little silly to think of it in terms of...
DO I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE THRIFT SAVINGS PLAN? The short answer of course is…yes. But first, what is the Thrift Savings Plan? The Thrift Savings Plan (TSP) is a retirement savings and investment plan for Federal employees and members of the uniformed services, including the Ready Reserve. It was established by Congress in...
There are very few things in a marriage that are truly “separate.” Even if you have separate bank accounts or credit cards, if you’re married, those things will probably be considered as joint assets or liabilities. In Virginia, at least, what is defined as marital or separate property really has nothing to do with the...
I have a new mantra for you, “It is NOT the principle that matters.” Try that out. Say it a few times. Let it sink in. Because seriously, ladies, we can’t afford to be constantly governed by principles, especially when it comes to divorce. I know, I know—your emotions are raw, your foundation has been...
Starting the Divorce Process Do you remember Driver’s Ed in High School? Do you remember sitting in the driver’s seat for the first time with the instructor by your side? I can remember the instructor telling me to put my foot on the break, put the gear in reverse, then take my foot off the...
If you’re heading towards divorce, you can’t bury your head like an ostrich in the sand. The key to a successful divorce is careful, deliberate planning. To help prepare you to move forward, I’ve put together four key tips for women facing divorce. 1. Get the information first. You won’t know where to start until...
If your child’s father has relocated to another state, you could wind up with a child custody nightmare on your hands, especially if you send your child to visit him without an established custody order in place. Here’s what happens: you think things are okay, and he’s not really fighting for custody. He asks to...