Preparing for a Child Custody Hearing with an Abusive Husband

Posted on May 4, 2010 by Hofheimer Family Law

If you are going through a Virginia divorce with an abusive husband and there are children involved, having a Virginia divorce attorney by your side with experience in domestic abuse is the best resource you can have.

If you and your children are victims of an abusive husband, take heart. You are already taking those difficult first steps by separating you and your children from the abuse. Now, you need to prepare yourself mentally for the legal battle ahead.

An experienced Virginia divorce attorney can coach you through the mindset needed in court to make a presentable, solid appeal to the child custody judge that you should be the primary parent to raise your children.

Here are some pointers to help you get in the proper frame of mind:

  • Strategize – You should not think of this process as a way to get justice. The judge will not know whose story to believe, which is why he will stick to the presumption that both parents have equal rights. Focus on what you can prove in court.
  • Heal Take care of yourself. It may be hard to find the time or mental energy now, but your child needs you to present a happy, well-adjusted mother to the judge. You can’t do that if you don’t feel good about yourself.
  • Avoid his traps – Don’t let your abusive husband’s erratic behavior outside the courtroom and unreasonable requests for visitation rattle you. Call your attorney instead.
  • Empower Remember that your abusive husband is nothing without his power over you. So take it back. Break the cycle of his expectations from you emotionally, and your fears of him mentally. You will take away his power.

Learn more about Virginia divorce and child custody issues when abuse is present in our library.

At Hofheimer Family Law Firm, we understand that the health and happiness of your children is your #1 concern. We will work with you to address any fears and anxieties you may have about your children’s future. Our women’s-only divorce attorneys will guide you every step of the way to ensure that you achieve the best possible child custody and child support arrangements for you and your children.

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