What happens when he asks for 50/50 custody but just leave the kids with his girlfriend?

In general, custody and visitation for grandparents and other non-parent third parties (aunts, uncles, family friends, stepparents, etc.) is pretty well established.  Though they can petition the court for custody and visitation, they have to meet a different standard than parents.  Between two biological or adoptive parents, the standard is the best interests of the...

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Arizona’s Alec and Lydia Act

Even though I am well and truly sick and tired of “groundbreaking” family law legislation being named after kids who were murdered in contested custody cases, the Alec and Lydia Act – recently passed in the state of Arizona – is, I hope, the beginning of a new era. Though I am not licensed in...

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Does cheating matter for child custody?

There are few things in a family law context that drive extreme emotion quite like adultery and child custody.  When you combine the two, it’s a recipe for volatility. But … does it matter? It’s an excellent question and one definitely worth discussing.  Let’s get into it. If your soon-to-be ex-husband (or ex boyfriend) cheated...

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When can I file for divorce?

The laws are changing beginning July 1 – so, though my answer to this question up until now would have been one thing, now it is different.  Let’s talk about it! In Virginia, we have both fault and no fault divorce.  (At least for now – the Virginia Family Law Coalition is looking into this...

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In the last several years, there have been some major changes to Virginia family law.  Just last year, in 2025, guideline child support amounts were raised.  This year, in 2026, the two major changes for family law are (1) that post-separation adultery is no longer recognized as a cause of action and (2) that, even...

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Parenting Plan Options: Part Two

Coming up with a parenting plan isn’t just about how you’ll share the days in each week, though it is certainly about how you’ll share the days in the week.  To make matters even more complicated, there are many other considerations that should be reflected in your parenting plan, and you’ll want to make sure...

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