He cheated. I’ll get spousal support, right?

He cheated. I’ll get spousal support, right?

There are very few things as difficult to overcome as adultery, especially as you then have to turn around and navigate your divorce.  Though not every marriage ends after a partner commits adultery, I’m assuming yours is – or else you wouldn’t be here. I saw a question on social media about adultery the other...

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My husband cheated – what can I do?

You don’t have to end your marriage because of infidelity, but many women ultimately choose to end it.  I’m not here to judge you for your choice, either way, but instead to help give you guidance on the Virginia divorce process so that you have an idea of what to expect if divorce is the...

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Divorce is a challenge, no matter what.  There are, though, some cases that are even more difficult than normal.  It can be hard, in the very early days, to accurately judge a case and determine whether *this* case will be one of the more difficult ones. One of the hardest things to navigate – in...

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If you’re here, you probably already know that you have to be separated for one year to get a divorce in Virginia.  The only two exceptions are if (1) you have a signed separation agreement, and (2) you have no minor children born or adopted by the parties of the marriage, and if (and this...

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For a long time, I thought the ten year myth – the idea that you had to be married for ten years to be entitled to a portion of the military retirement – was limited to military divorces only. Please note, of course, that I called it a MYTH. I didn’t realize that many civilians...

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The dangers of separation under the same roof

For most people, there is a period of time between separation and divorce where the soon-to-be divorcing parties live together under the same roof, often with their children.  This is not so much a desirable situation – in fact, I think you could easily argue that it is anything BUT desirable – but it is...

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What should my first steps be pre-divorce?

Most of the questions that we get – at least in the early stages of a separation or divorce – is a basic one.  “What should I do first?” It’s a good question, too, because I think it’s always smart to go into something knowing what to expect and having at least the outlines of...

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Common Coparenting Issues: Cell Phones

  It’s hard enough to be a parent in modern times; it’s even harder when you add in the difficulty associated with trying to be a collaborative coparent with your ex.  Even in otherwise happy marriages, moms and dads disagree about what is best for their kids.  In a situation where mom and dad are...

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