As you and Uma Thurman wisely know, taking care of oneself is your very first priority when confronting divorce. But, knowing what to do and doing it are two entirely different facts. Like most caring moms, the childrens' activities and your hectic schedule intervene with the best of intentions regarding taking care of yourself. "Well", you say,"there is always tomorrow". And, tomorrow is always tomorrow …………
Working with women facing or confronting the hurt and pain of their marriage ending–It is clear that those who take their eye off their spouse and focus on their own healing are the women whom seem to weather stress the best. Focusing on yourself means whatever works for you: warm baths, candles,therapy, yoga,a long walk–The possibilities are endless. These precious few minutes are a respite in the chaos of being a single mom.
And your brief relaxing sojourn may well be what fortifies your nurturing soul. Your nuturance brings calm to the chaos confronting your children. Remember, as the center of your children's universe, they need you at full capacity. This means that you replenish yourself emotionally and physically.
Be like Uma, make taking care of yourself your first priority. It makes all the other priorities much easier.