Virginia Collaborative Divorce Guidelines

Posted on Feb 25, 2010 by Hofheimer Family Law

Have you and your spouse decided to pursue a Virginia collaborative divorce? While a collaborative divorce is generally less stressful than a traditional divorce, it is important to follow a few guidelines while going through the process.

First, remember, the goal is not to “win.”
Difficult as it can be, keep in mind that working together will help your relationship in the long run, which is better than a short-lived triumph. You will also set a good example for your children by showing that you can resolve disputes without having a “winner” and a “loser.”

Remain polite throughout your collaborative divorce
. This includes minding your manners and acting in a non-adversarial manner. When communicating, try using “I” statements rather than “you” statements; this can help you to avoid a conflict with your estranged husband.

Throughout the process of your Virginia collaborative divorce, try to see things from your husband’s point of view. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we fail to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. On the other hand, you can agree to disagree. You and your spouse are different people, and you will not always see eye to eye on every issue.

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It is also important to hire a Virginia collaborative divorce attorney to guide you through the process. Your attorney will give you personalized advice and act as a mentor and advocate during this time. While we know that a collaborative divorce can’t eliminate the pain associated with the dissolution of a marriage, the Virginia women’s divorce attorneys at Hofheimer Family Law Firm want to help you to achieve a peaceful and successful resolution that will enable you and your children to move on with your lives and look ahead to the future.

Begin the process of your collaborative divorce today and get closer to starting your new life with peace of mind. Contact us today to schedule a legal consultation – (757) 425-5200.